Iāll try to be brief :
Basically was just at a classmateās wedding, saw someone cute yet really familiar, got introduced by the groom after I told him she was cute (in hindsight wouldāve probably been more attractive if i just introduced myself directly without any help)
Talked and flirted just a bit (really me doing the heavy lifting), got her number, then excused myself since i had to go to another event (which is true, although i think also partly that typical nervousness that makes you wanna just bail. wished i stayed and bantered longer, but i guess itās a side effect of getting exclusively used to online dating/non-cold approach)
Texted her an hour later as shown in the screenshot. Obviously, even after a few takeaways, she just wasnāt feeling it. Sucks but no problem, I took the L and moved on
Iāve a wedding on the 30th (high school friend, unrelated circle to the first wedding). But just found out that the chick is one of the bridesmaids so sheās definitely gonna be there
Turns out thatās why she was familiar, cos we have overlapping social circles (iām from a counterpart boy school and sheās from counterpart girl school when we were in high school, then went to the same college, iām just one year her senior)
Questions :
How do i go about this ? Accept that she already signalled she wasn't interested and just be chill/passive about it (and only interact with her if like if we somehow literally get face-to-face each other), or actively seek her out during the event and try my luck again ?
More specifically, how would I open or call out the elephant in the room, assuming we do end up in front of each other? What should I say as opener ?
Context :
I live in an Asian/generally conservative society. I remember showing my text attempts (the screenshot) to a female friend which, for her, is already āa bit forward and Western, while admittedly refreshingā
But more than that, itās the social circle aspect of it which is why Iām a little anxious haha. Basically hesitant to be bolder cos of social consequences, like word gets around fast. Especially considering that, well, she already implicitly rejected me the last time. Like if this were a distant friendās wedding without or little social connection to the group I wouldnāt GAF so much and be more persistent & bold, even if I go full cocky
So yeah Iād appreciate any insight here. Thanks bros
