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referring to this vid https://www.youtube.com/watch?v\=ha4HMr1HCyE**  commenting here since a bit lengthy + need to avoid digital footprint due to work  Generally** agree with it, known most of those points but just great restatement and articulation of em  but some thoughts :  1\. On investment - Again agree here, sometimes when i softclose/ float the idea of a date right away (ex. we match, she asks how are you, and i immediately drop the 'good just worked out looking guapo for our date' within just 1-2 exchanges) i get left on seen (but sometimes it also works quite well, ig depends really on the girl). so lately im trying to stretch banter a bit. my only concern is if sometimes a girl's a timewaster like you text/talk a while, then when you finally escalate to meeting up she disappears. so it feels like a pull between being patient to get a girl to invest on the one hand vs. hard screening for validation-seekers on the other 2\. on sexual tension / socially risky behaviour / risking rejection - i am usually very touchy and girls usually even comment i'm "aggressive", problem is i usually tend to freeze up/hesitate when the girl is hotter (or even if externally i try and even succeed to stay calm & playful or at least "normal", internally i feel the anxiety and it perhaps still affects my presence and sexuality) and therefore subconsciously revert to safer behaviour  case in point : last night, was with a girl i wasn't really hot about (in fact it also showed in our texting, i'd leave her on seen for long stretches and only replied lazily when i wanted). literally the second she showed up, i was already touching her, squeezing her waist, kissed her right away. was shamelessly hugging & flirting with her the whole time & we were making out in the bar & really didn't care if she rejected me. invited her upstairs to my place and it was only then that she put on the brakes and we agreed a second date (and i can honestly say idgaf really if she flakes)  at another extreme, was introduced by friends to a hot foreign model during a night out (i posted recently about this here). so while i was externally calm/playful, internally i got intimidated, a bit taller than me too so my short guy syndrome (5'7) didnt help either. so for example i'd make small passes at touches, which she didnt really reject, but i didn't escalate on them either ofc as alex said it's possible maybe she wasn't that interested or attracted to begin with, but i'd never know for sure if i just didn't say fuck my ego and put my balls on the line like i did with the first girl. to sum up i think outcome independence/idgaf really helps, just that the hotter the girl the less idgaf i get  also i tend to be more aggressive/flirty when i meet a girl from online or if it's a 1 on 1 setting (as opposed to social circle game or in a crowd)  3\. *On point of no return -* very rare but i've had experiences of hooking up on the first night and the girl would still ghost/flake on the second date (but i can attribute some of these to giving em bad sex lol)  but sometimes it feels like a fine line between being persistent and pushy. like in the video with the girl talking about sexual assault, like how do you even try to push after that story lol. in my experience, sometimes when the girl's lying in bed and says we won't have sex and will physically manifest it too like she'd stop my hands or push them away or even sternly tell me off. but then i'd just try not to get reactive/butthurt, and instead also say yea we won't have sex i hate it while continuing to kiss her and escalate again. rinse and repeat. and honestly, sometimes in the end the girl gets worked up herself, sometimes the girl truly exercises control lol and nothing happens

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Context : Met girl through friends Friday night (social circle) Flirted, light touching, good vibe, she laughed throughout the night Said I'll take her out, she told me to text her Text (screenshot) : Sat : sent callback opener, she replied. I teased, she just šŸ˜‚ reacted So Sun evening, I went direct & asked her out. Felt something like "ah 2026, where emoji reacts count as repliesā€ wasn't calibrated/might come across as needy or weird given the immediate social circle context No reply as of today (Monday 5pm) Question : best follow-up (after a few more days) ? Normally i'd reopen with something like "don't think too hard now", but given the social circle constraint here I'm unsure whether to keep it polarising or neutral/bluepill ("Hey, still up for season 2 ?")

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Hey, I’ve already done my homework on bypassing a Bumble ban, but I know their detection system is sharp. I’ve read frustrating stories of people changing a lot of things but still getting banned again. So I hope to do things right. I’m in the Philippines and my old account was banned on 16 Oct 2024. For context, I believe the ban came from a report out of spite : I had a date, decided we weren’t a good match, and I think she reported me afterward. I don’t send anything NSFW or violate guidelines. Bumble worked far better for me than Tinder (Platinum) or CMB (Premium), so I wanna be as surgical as possible in creating a clean new account. Based on what I’ve read, here’s my current plan. Can you confirm if I’m missing anything or if some of this is overkill ? What I think I need: New phone – Does brand/model matter ? Would a cheap phone work for this purpose ? New SIM / number – Prepaid vs postpaid? (all SIMs in the Philippines are now government-registered. Does this matter to Bumble ?) New email address – Does the provider matter ? (All my current emails are Gmail.) What I think I need to do: New pictures – Does the lineup have to be completely different, or can I reuse a few strong ones from my old account ? Don’t link IG to the new Bumble account. Don’t use old networks – Avoid home Wi-Fi or any networks I used my old account on. Be careful with location – Even on data, avoid logging in from my home or other areas I regularly used the old account. Once I get a match’s contact info, unmatch immediately to avoid future reports. Questions I still have: Has enough time passed since the ban for a ā€œcool downā€ ? (Ban date: 16 Oct 2024.) Is it safe to upgrade to Premium later (after the new user boost), or could that trigger flags since my old account was Premium ? Should I verify my new account or avoid it ? In the Philippines, new SIMs are government-registered. Could Bumble see that info and connect it to me, or do they not have access ? Can I reuse my old bio/about me text ? (It’s been one of my strongest hooks, based on Alex's own material.) Does Bumble flag/review the messages I send ? I don’t send NSFW stuff, but I reuse similar openers/lines over time. Should I also use a VPN or IP spoofing on my new phone to further disguise my network location, even if I’m already avoiding my old home Wi-Fi and sticking to mobile data ? Really appreciate any advice from folks who’ve actually done this cleanly. Trying to lock in a fresh start and not end up auto-banned again.

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anyone know how to get past this ? this kinda has me down in the dumps. the lack of due process is also frustrating

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First screenshot is my (guy) friend setting me up and giving her background/personality Second is full convo log with her. At the end, you'll see I'm mulling over two options : "Great, what's your schedule like next week" <-- take the like as a "sure", more casual "Ah 2024, where message reacts count as replies" <-- won't take low investment, more assertive. If I do this, I'll wait maybe like till end of the day (it's 8am now) to send it out Of course, open to hear any other suggestions. I have Alex's AI FireText app but I don't think it recognizes "liked" messages

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Reengaged this chick yesterday after almost a month, remembered her when i was scrolling down & reviewing past matches I'll let the screenshots & timestamps speak for themselves. Also put in her profile for complete context & to get an idea how she is (i.e. she strikes me as a "quality"/long game sorta girl and not just a ratchet hookup) As you can see, i was just initially trolling the shit outta her friend nothing serious. Now, i honestly dunno where to take this haha i've never really done extremely "gamey" textgame like this. I feel hesitant about bringing up our "romantic date" right away, so should i continue bantering & building comfort ? What lines would you recommend ? Open to all suggestions, thanks

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(Some of y'all are probably gonna say just give her good sex, i agree but why not both ;) ) Two questions : 1) Is the quality really better/far away from other brands of vibrators ? I already have one (don't remember the brand name, currently not at home), I think it's good but then again it's my first and only vibrator so i don't really have any comparison. And it's not as if i interviewed the chicks i've done it with on their experience lol 2) if it is, i'd like to ask how much is the standard/regular selling price ? There's a sex shop near my place that sells it at (converting into dollars) $301. It's the only one left in stock (they only ship it from the states when there's demand) so i asked to reserve it. Was just a bit surprised cos the last time i asked a few months ago, it was only $182. in short, given the price and that i have another vibrator, i'd just like to ask if it's a worthwhile investment. Or if i'm better off just ordering off of amazon, even with the shipping cost (i live in asia) Thanks

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I’ll try to be brief : Basically was just at a classmate’s wedding, saw someone cute yet really familiar, got introduced by the groom after I told him she was cute (in hindsight would’ve probably been more attractive if i just introduced myself directly without any help) Talked and flirted just a bit (really me doing the heavy lifting), got her number, then excused myself since i had to go to another event (which is true, although i think also partly that typical nervousness that makes you wanna just bail. wished i stayed and bantered longer, but i guess it’s a side effect of getting exclusively used to online dating/non-cold approach) Texted her an hour later as shown in the screenshot. Obviously, even after a few takeaways, she just wasn’t feeling it. Sucks but no problem, I took the L and moved on I’ve a wedding on the 30th (high school friend, unrelated circle to the first wedding). But just found out that the chick is one of the bridesmaids so she’s definitely gonna be there Turns out that’s why she was familiar, cos we have overlapping social circles (i’m from a counterpart boy school and she’s from counterpart girl school when we were in high school, then went to the same college, i’m just one year her senior) Questions : How do i go about this ? Accept that she already signalled she wasn't interested and just be chill/passive about it (and only interact with her if like if we somehow literally get face-to-face each other), or actively seek her out during the event and try my luck again ? More specifically, how would I open or call out the elephant in the room, assuming we do end up in front of each other? What should I say as opener ? Context : I live in an Asian/generally conservative society. I remember showing my text attempts (the screenshot) to a female friend which, for her, is already ā€œa bit forward and Western, while admittedly refreshingā€ But more than that, it’s the social circle aspect of it which is why I’m a little anxious haha. Basically hesitant to be bolder cos of social consequences, like word gets around fast. Especially considering that, well, she already implicitly rejected me the last time. Like if this were a distant friend’s wedding without or little social connection to the group I wouldn’t GAF so much and be more persistent & bold, even if I go full cocky So yeah I’d appreciate any insight here. Thanks bros

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So how would you guys respond ? Attached our whole convo for context, but my question basically refers to the very end of the last screenshot (hopefully they're in order, but just in case i also indicated the sequence in the upper part of the screenshots themselves) "Hi, I asked what evenings are you free first week of Jan" (Replying to "Yass") "attagirl, so when are you free first week of jan" Just ignore the fact that she ignored it and like her message "Happy holidays to you too ! We'll just see if our amor will stand the test of time" Open to other suggestions as well. Just wanna make sure I don't screw this one up lol Context : We've been casually chatting for over a week now since we matched (we both take ages to reply), eventually soft closed and got a positive response, but when i went for hard close she said she was already fully booked for the rest of the year. I said no problem me too, asked her when is she free first week of jan but as you can see, I didn't get a direct response. It's annoying but probably my fault since my previous message basically contained two messages (have to keep reminding myself to keep messages short and direct/one-idea per message, especially when closing) Last question too, in general : what do you think about leaving a girl on read for a substantial period of time ? is it helpful, harmful, or doesn't matter ? Cos in this example, and since i'm in a different timezone than you guys, she'll have been left on read for half a day or more by the time i respond to her

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For those who don't know, photofeeler basically allows you to upload your pics to be judged by other users on a scale of 1-10 (by metrics like "Smart", "Trustworthy", and of course "Attractive") Here's the link to the site : https://www.photofeeler.com/ So just a simple question really, is this a helpful way of picking your photos for your dating profile short of asking your real life friends or Alex/dating coaches ?

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