referring to this vid https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ha4HMr1HCyE**
commenting here since a bit lengthy + need to avoid digital footprint due to work

Generally** agree with it, known most of those points but just great restatement and articulation of em

but some thoughts :
1. On investment - Again agree here, sometimes when i softclose/ float the idea of a date right away (ex. we match, she asks how are you, and i immediately drop the 'good just worked out looking guapo for our date' within just 1-2 exchanges) i get left on seen (but sometimes it also works quite well, ig depends really on the girl). so lately im trying to stretch banter a bit. my only concern is if sometimes a girl's a timewaster like you text/talk a while, then when you finally escalate to meeting up she disappears. so it feels like a pull between being patient to get a girl to invest on the one hand vs. hard screening for validation-seekers on the other

2. on sexual tension / socially risky behaviour / risking rejection - i am usually very touchy and girls usually even comment i'm "aggressive", problem is i usually tend to freeze up/hesitate when the girl is hotter (or even if externally i try and even succeed to stay calm & playful or at least "normal", internally i feel the anxiety and it perhaps still affects my presence and sexuality) and therefore subconsciously revert to safer behaviour

case in point : last night, was with a girl i wasn't really hot about (in fact it also showed in our texting, i'd leave her on seen for long stretches and only replied lazily when i wanted). literally the second she showed up, i was already touching her, squeezing her waist, kissed her right away. was shamelessly hugging & flirting with her the whole time & we were making out in the bar & really didn't care if she rejected me. invited her upstairs to my place and it was only then that she put on the brakes and we agreed a second date (and i can honestly say idgaf really if she flakes)

at another extreme, was introduced by friends to a hot foreign model during a night out (i posted recently about this here). so while i was externally calm/playful, internally i got intimidated, a bit taller than me too so my short guy syndrome (5'7) didnt help either. so for example i'd make small passes at touches, which she didnt really reject, but i didn't escalate on them either

ofc as alex said it's possible maybe she wasn't that interested or attracted to begin with, but i'd never know for sure if i just didn't say fuck my ego and put my balls on the line like i did with the first girl. to sum up i think outcome independence/idgaf really helps, just that the hotter the girl the less idgaf i get

also i tend to be more aggressive/flirty when i meet a girl from online or if it's a 1 on 1 setting (as opposed to social circle game or in a crowd)

3. On point of no return - very rare but i've had experiences of hooking up on the first night and the girl would still ghost/flake on the second date (but i can attribute some of these to giving em bad sex lol)

but sometimes it feels like a fine line between being persistent and pushy. like in the video with the girl talking about sexual assault, like how do you even try to push after that story lol. in my experience, sometimes when the girl's lying in bed and says we won't have sex and will physically manifest it too like she'd stop my hands or push them away or even sternly tell me off. but then i'd just try not to get reactive/butthurt, and instead also say yea we won't have sex i hate it while continuing to kiss her and escalate again. rinse and repeat. and honestly, sometimes in the end the girl gets worked up herself, sometimes the girl truly exercises control lol and nothing happens