Matched with hot latina on Bumble around 6 weeks ago. After some bantering we had first date. Things went well, escalated to kissing and brought her home but she wouldn't let me in yet. Then we went on second date at a wine bar, followed by a pub and then back to her place. we were quite tipsy and she needed tons of time before I could finally fuck her (like 1.5 hour of kissing, grinding my body etc. Everytime I escalated she pulled my hand away. I just played it cool and took my time until I finally bedded her). The sex was nice, def not bad but not great either. She wouldn't let me give her oral (so I couldn't make her orgasm) and she didnt give me BJ either . Nevertheless we fucked again for second round and it was quite enjoyable. Also she acted a bit weird: within a minute of finishing our first round of sex she said "dont get mad at me, but you have to leave later tonight, not now but later on" which I found was a bit weird and insensitive timing. She also mentioned something like "maybe its better if we're just friends". However after that we hugged and had good talks (I stayed warm yet kept my composure when she said those things) and like I mentioned I did bang her a second time after she said that "friend" thing. Ultimately, I did end up staying the night (she sorta changed her mind) but left early morning soon after I got up, which I sense she appreciated (she said its not about me, she just doesn't like people sleeping over in early dating). Its been a month since we had sex. She postponed / flaked on our date twice but mentioned it was due to her busy work/studying schedule. She didn't get back to me for 2 weeks now when I said "cool just let me know once u finish exam we can plan something then". What should I do now? Just let it go? Sent a new opener? Or confront her about being flakey?
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Screenshots say it all. I matched this cute chick on bumble. We had a good convo and already set the day and activity (drinks) for our first date a week ahead. Then I was sick so didn't text her for 4 days. I then texted her last sunday on bumble saying I had been recovering from sickness and suggested time and place for our date that upcoming tuesday. Her (that tuesday morning): Hey (my name), sorry I have to reschedule then. A few mins after sending that text she deleted her entire bumble account (didn't unmatch me). I thought this situation was so weird so I did the following: I treated it like she blocked me and used the advice from Alex's video about girls that block you. I quickly found her ig and sent dm. I found out her objection, she is convinced she must focus on career because she MIGHT make career switch and move away soon. Spotting this, I tried breaking her frame by pointing out it's just a casual drink and her moving plans are still tentative. She hearted my message about 24 hrs ago but hasn't responded yet. Should I leave it at this or do you guys think I can still get this girl on date later by giving her space or by double texting?
This girl responds positive to my soft close, but her answer to my hard close sounded kind of luke warm. And she didn't get back with her schedule for 4 days now. What to double text?
What’s the best way to reply now to keep momentum high and frame tight? Should I confirm again later this week, or stay chill and let her reinitiate?
Hey guys, Had a solid convo with this girl — good energy, long replies, seemed into meeting up. But now she’s insisting I come to her city (about 40 mins away). I teased her a bit about needing a visa to visit mine, but she doubled down with “So doesn’t Amsterdam 😉” and hasn’t softened since. I’m not opposed to going there eventually, but I want to make sure I’m only investing in women who show some flexibility and effort early on. Feels like if I cave now, I’m chasing. What’s the best way to reframe this and get her to agree to drinks in my city without killing the vibe or looking rigid?
Since my response to her opener was already quite long, I'm not sure if another long text is the right way to go - or to keep it short and sweet. Which option is best? Options: "I will tell if you say please daddy first" "Depends on the mood, but I like to keep things fun & playful with a bit of spanking, choking, hairpulling, role play, blindfolds etc...you? "My desires include but are not limited to a very submissive girl I can dominate. I begin with passionately kissing your neck, followed by the rest of your body so that your pussy gets dripping wet. I'm a natural giver so I like to go down for a long oral marathon. Maybe beat my multiple oral orgasms record. I enjoy face fucking, spanking, choking and hair pulling. I also like to use toys to enhance the experience. I also love roleplay. Especially with sexy lingerie and being in script. I love teaching so it's very natural to me. I'll take the lead, you follow." Spankings, blindfolds, and handcuffs are a good start. Why, what’s yours?
Hi Alex and PWF community, greatly appreciate you all and learning a lot from your texting content! In 2023 I met this very cute Asian girl on Bumble. Managed to get her out on date, had drinks, vibed and she even kissed me at end of date. Second date I managed to get her over to my place. After cooking us some food - I went for the close and banged the hell out of her. Best sex I ever had, small Asian body, tight pussy, surprisingly big tits and she even choked me back. After sex we were cuddling in bed. I was bantering with her and made (what I think) was a very obvious joke about her having to leave. She got up and started dressing her clothes. At first I thought she was messing with me but she was serious...I managed to calm her down, convince her I was joking and made her open up. Turns out she had some trauma from an ex-boyfriend who dumped her in the middle of having sex. I expressed sympathy, we cuddled some more and then I banged her again the next morning. I figured this issue was dealt with. Around 12 hours after she left I sent her my first text. I feel like she slow faded on me but I def made some bad texting mistakes as well (see screenshots). As you can see, she kept referring back to trauma so couldn't get her to see me again. My questions to Alex/PWF community are twofold: What mistakes did I make with texting and how/what should I have texted her instead to get her out for next date/hookup? I have been single since last few weeks. I know common wisdom says you shouldn't reheat leftovers but the sex with her was too good for me not to try and re-engage again (nothing to lose right). So that's what I did, texted her after 1.5 years (last screenshot), trying to make her remember some good memories. When she didn't reply, I double texted her the funny Asian guy talking to a wall GIF after 4 days. Still no response (20 hours later). What do you guys think? Is this situation salvagable? What would be an appropriate triple text in case she doesn't respond within the next week? Looking forward to your advice! Best wishes from C
