Hot latine flaking on dates after sex - Is this still salvagable?

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Matched with hot latina on Bumble around 6 weeks ago. After some bantering we had first date. Things went well, escalated to kissing and brought her home but she wouldn't let me in yet. Then we went on second date at a wine bar, followed by a pub and then back to her place.

  • we were quite tipsy and she needed tons of time before I could finally fuck her (like 1.5 hour of kissing, grinding my body etc. Everytime I escalated she pulled my hand away. I just played it cool and took my time until I finally bedded her).
  • The sex was nice, def not bad but not great either. She wouldn't let me give her oral (so I couldn't make her orgasm) and she didnt give me BJ either . Nevertheless we fucked again for second round and it was quite enjoyable.

Also she acted a bit weird: within a minute of finishing our first round of sex she said "dont get mad at me, but you have to leave later tonight, not now but later on" which I found was a bit weird and insensitive timing. She also mentioned something like "maybe its better if we're just friends". However after that we hugged and had good talks (I stayed warm yet kept my composure when she said those things) and like I mentioned I did bang her a second time after she said that "friend" thing.

Ultimately, I did end up staying the night (she sorta changed her mind) but left early morning soon after I got up, which I sense she appreciated (she said its not about me, she just doesn't like people sleeping over in early dating).

Its been a month since we had sex. She postponed / flaked on our date twice but mentioned it was due to her busy work/studying schedule. She didn't get back to me for 2 weeks now when I said "cool just let me know once u finish exam we can plan something then".

What should I do now? Just let it go? Sent a new opener? Or confront her about being flakey?

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i would just text her "Are you still interested in hanging out"

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Its over....

Her: hey (my name), super sorry for my late reply, I had busy times and your message passed
Her: I truly enjoyed our time together, and think you are a great guy, but for now I am not interested in hanging out! Hope you understand

I am curious so asked her for feedback. Let's see...

Me: Thank you for letting me know (her name). I also really enjoyed getting to know you. You seem like a very direct and honest woman so I was just wondering: could I have done something differently that would have changed how things turned out?

So I can learn from it for the future 🙂

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Her: There’s nothing different that would have changed how this would turned out, it was a nice match but not the match, don’t know if it’s possible to explain this things haha

Me: " Appreciate that you responded! Chemistry is a weird thing. All I can say is we didn't see each others best moves yet (especially sober without all that wine...) but it is what it is! Thank you again and wish you all the best!"

On to the next one!

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avilench . Avatar

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Feedback in these situations will be close to useless. Did you fuck her on the first date? Im assuming the answer is no and so she kinda friend zoned you unfortunately

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