I've been dating this girl which I knew for some time now but we recently got close and started hooking up (Thanks to Alex and pwf/firetext skills which changed the whole game plan). My intention with her is long term dating although but I've not said anything like that to her and just going with flow. I'm trying to maintain a state where she keeps a higher interest in me than I do. Now she does mention a bunch of best friends and who are mostly guys. I've met one of her male "best friends" who has a gf but idk that he just couldnt date her and ended up being with someone else cause he was a bit touchy with her lol. She recently out of blue mentioned another one of her guy best friend and she was like "we used to talk every night over call and sometimes over video call he would sing me a song and put me to sleep too but I realize I had to stop it cause i couldnt sleep without then then". This guy was also significantly more better looking than me too, I did not say anything to her statement and just said sounds like a fun guy. Why is she telling me this? and are these best friends usually threat as we all know there is no such a thing as a guy best friend. I guess I shouldn't question her about this correct? she obv communicates with this best friend all the time so how do I approach this? i dont mind her having guy friends but we know this isnt just a friend
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I went on a date prior to her travels, while she was away, we talked on phone multiple times and on her return she asked me to pick her up from station and spend the after day after together so i texted her for logistics 4 days earlier: Hey send me your arrival time and details She did not reply for almost 2 days now. her arrival in less than 48 hours. Do I double text closer to logistics? what is a good f/u text - instead of "do not think too hard"
Trying to plan a first date, met her a while back in person and exchanged numbers, we have been talking for a few weeks but she is travelling. I have used all the takeaway's with her lol (don't think too hard, don't be shy, don't worry its not a trick ques, nervous one). She disappears then reappears with a lot of back and forth. She also mentioned earlier, she prefers communication lol Me: How's your trip going? Her: It's amazing. loving the food and the markets here although the wedding i m attending is a bit hectic Me: Sounds exciting. But I can imagine the wedding chaos. Did you buy the jacket? (something she mentioned earlier) No reply for 5 days What is a good re-engagement text here? keeping me in suspense I see (not sure if it sounds needy) "here we go again.." (kinda harsh but calls out a repeating pattern and her not communicating even though she said this) -"well i tried the communication" (sounds needy?) if you want me to stop trying just lmk (maybe harsh cause she is travelling so busy) I hope you did not get abducted there by aliens I always leave you speechless any other suggestions. thanks!
Planning a date - we have met a few times Me - we need to get together before you head out. Are you off on friday? (something i knew already) No reply Me - don’t be shy Her - lol I work What’s the best response on this? do not reply at all like the message ask for when she is free? Move the convo forward
I’ve known this girl for sometime (2 years) and been trying to date her recently but she has been playing hard to get - always was There are periods of a lot of back forth then sudden disappearance. I try to match the late response times here and there. We rarely do calls (she has called me out of blue for planning dates in recent past) Her - that’s a nice collection (some inside joke going on) - she sent this after 4 days Me - yea, you got any fav’s (i replied after 3-4 days too) No reply for 24 hours. I’m thinking of calling her in an another day or so. Would it out of the blue? Or better to text - “love the enthusiasm” as she was excited about this thing we were discussing Idk if calling is pushing further on non compliance? I never really understood when is the best time to jump on a call as Alex shows in videos
Hi Alex, One thing I struggle with is when to simply like a message or not reply (i tend to over invest). Firetext already takes my texting skills to a much higher level but would any future updates make it so it also gives a suggestion to just like to message or tells to not reply to this?
We have met a few times but still trying to close. I’m travelling and she asked me to get a top. Her - could you go top shopping for me in Italy? Lol Me - sure. What style? Her - something yellow and simple. Anything else you find cute Me - cool I sent her a bunch of pictures a few days later and no reply for 3 days She does this hot/cold texting sometimes. Planning re engage in a few days Firetext - love the enthusiasm, ah I see you’re speecless Any other suggestion? Or any types callout since its a repeating pattern of this type of texting?
For the past few months, I was mixing my text responses (difficult situations) with both chatgpt and firetext app and it clearly went downhill. Stick to firetext/Alex's videos guys lol. For some of the lines used in the video's, they were considered as needy or chasing by chatgpt and I ended up saying chatgpt recommendations and lost a lot of leads. Currently in process of re-watching all the videos to relearn my lost knowledge lol. Back to being a beginner PS: great opener feature on app Alex!
I'm travelling next week and i was trying to force plan a date but she was giving vague availability and it keeps going back and forth with planning so I said this (mistake) Me - pick a day Her - i thought i was off on tuesday but I have to cover for a coworker Me - cool. How’s sunday then? (again my mistake lol) No reply I just re-watched Alex's videos (persistent without being needy) and it seems like all I was doing is trying to plan the date without any teasing which was a mistake but trying to recover this now. I have used some of the takeaways (don't think too hard) in the past but what is the next best step to recover this? I was thinking a few of these double texts "don't be shy" or "I hope you're not going cold feet on me" or "if you're too nervous, I'd understand" (although this is 2nd date so i doubt nervous one would be good). What you guys think? Top Firetext suggestions: "If you're too nervous, I'd understand", "or we can skip this and get married", "ah I guess you don't like the idea" "ah, the silence treatment" any suggestions?
She is the one to initiate for next date but replying really slow Her - we should plan something Me - yes we should. What days are you off next week (for this week)? After 3 days Her - i’m off tues and fridays mostly Me - cool. How’s next friday for you? After 2 days Her - i might be working next friday but let me confirm Me - cool. Lmk. If not we can also aim for wed After 3 days Her - none of those days work :((( Me - what days work for you next week? Its been 3 days. No reply Would you call out this slow text behaviour? “At this rate we’ll meet next year” Or is this passive aggressive?
