Comments by Tim Kang
Joined 7y agoBio is totally re written as well. Plz give me feedback. š
She told me a few weeks ago she was starting to catch feelings. And today she sent me this after coming back from my 2week trip.
CONTEXT: Ive been seeing her since January. Amazing sex and we bonded strongly emotionally too. We also had a talk earlier in our relationship that were both totally cool with each other dating other people.
Several weeks ago she told me shes starting to catch feelings. She also asked questions like, "how do you feel towards me?" "Do I have any chances with you to become monogamous in the future? I want to know so I dont get hurt" "can you go to this wedding with me?" Etc.
I told her I really enjoy spending time with her but also let her know that I like to take things slow when it comes to deciding whether i want to be monogamous with someone. She also knows theres other women in my life. She was cool at first but obvs towards later in the relationship I dont think she liked it.
Anyhow, today I got this txt msg when she didnt pick up the phone when I called her after coming back from my 2 week trip. Even during the trip until last week she was telling me how much she is looking forward to seeing me and stuff.
The reason I am explaining this context is that I am pretty sure she still has feelings for me but is withdrawing herself cuz she doesnt feel the reciprocation and "doesnt wanna get hurt".
She also could be sending this text to manipulate me into being monogamous with her.
The last reason being that she legit met someone else.
How can I respond to this? Because I legit do like her and want to keep seeing her, although monogamy is still a deal breaker for me.
What I am wondering is whether she withdrew herself because I really didn't open up about my feelings towards her.
And I'm curious if it's worth it at this point to try to convey that to her so that she can feel reciprocated.
I thought of either:
- ignore and move on until she engages again
- engage her via text in a week or so,
- Acknowledge her and ask to meet up in person so I have the chance to see what her hangups are.
Thoughts?



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I dont have any other pics. š im naturally super skinny and have a young nice-boy asian face so I dunno what else I can do lol.. maybe smile less?