Met this girl from tinder, incredibly hot and amazing personality. She probably would be very close to my ideal girl. Went on a first date that was great but I just couldnt escalate, I could feel she was just not there yet. Went on a second date where she came to my place. We made out, but gave me lmr as I brought her to my bed. At the end I fingered for a bit but then she stopped me and said "Sorry, I know this is probably frustrating for you." I kept my chill and told her it was not a big deal. After texting so more she eventually told me "If youre looking for a girl to sleep with that is fine and I understand, I'd just wouldnt be that girl" Now we are making plans to go to a third date and she suggested an expensive brunch place. Now money is not a problem, and I would be very down to see this girl for an actual relationship cause I actually enjoy her company. However, I dont want to go on expensive dates especially if we have only seen eachother twice and have not yet had sex. Screenshot is irrelevant, last few texts were just logistics figuring out the time. Then I suggested a place near my apartment Then she suggested this fancy place. Not sure how to reply. I dont know if I should be very honest and tell her I dont feel like going to a fancy place this early in the relationship or try to suggest a place with better logistics. What do you guys think?
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A girl is showing a lot of interest, texts with lots emoticons, has already agreed to meet up in a soft close and out of nowhere just stops replying without you fucking it up, (especially when going for the hard close an you're just waiting for her confirmation). Is this a shit test? How do you handle it?
Hey Alex, Seems that you would loose any forum post youre working on if you change your browser window size before you hit save. Not sure if its just me tho, I am using chrome.
I was studying at the library and matched with this girl pretty late at night. Here’s a quick walkthrough of the interaction: Screenshot 1) Its about 11pm and the girl just got back from a sorority event date that did not go well. I’m thinking she’s probably dtf. Screenshot 2) She jumps on the wine soft close, and says shes feeling spontaneous and has her own room. Although I have not sexualized the interaction, I think it is pretty well understood that if we meet up we would have sex. Screenshot 3) Shit test 1: Why didn’t they invite you – I flip it on her by saying I had to study and already mentioned that before Shit test 2: Fake number – I just assumed she will text me. I replied “Silly” and within 5 seconds she hits me up Screenshot 4) Just a bit of banter as we move to text. Shit test 3: interesting (Spelled like a retard) – I think she’s just trying to tease me or whatever, but I flip it as if she is impatient to meet up Screenshot 5) So she asks for confirmation, which I say “Yes of course” but also give her an easy way out by saying “Unless is past your bed time.” I like to do this because it prevents her from saying no to me but rather to the situation, and can lead to just rescheduling it. She seems down so I say “That is the best type” Now, I did not have wine at my place, so I send her a voice note saying that I could bring some beer instead. I also take this opportunity so she can hear my voice and convey I am a normal dude. She doesn’t reply, which I take as if she is having second thoughts or is asleep. Screenshot 6) I tease her for falling asleep and she replies “I promise” which tells me she might still be down to meet. But then she doesn’t reply (probably fell asleep again). I send her the last text to show I have boundaries and that I don’t want to waste my time. I think this interaction was great except for one thing: I DID NOT SEXUALIZE THE CONVERSATION It’s tinder so I’ve always implied that if you meet up with a match is to have sex, not to “split a bottle of wine,” so I’ve never felt the real need to do so. However, I feel that making her horny and sexualizing the conversation would ease the meet-up specially for these situations where I met at like 11pm and I am trying to meet up the same night. Leaving it at “sharing a wine bottle” fucked me up because it makes the interaction rely on the fact that I have to bring wine. I am not sure tho at what point in the conversation and how I should have made it sexual. What do you guys think?
Matched with a girl about three days ago, she messaged me first, we talked a little and then agreed to meet up. I've got a busy schedule, and the only time slot I've got to meet up with this girl is next week. So far I've done a good job in keeping her curious and exited to meet up by not giving her all my story (answering vaguely following with stuff like "Its great story, I'll save it for when we meet in person"). And making sure it's a flirty vibe by throwing compliments like "that's really sexy" and so on. I don't want to be too sexual because I feel it'll be hard to keep a sexual convo for so long? Also, I'm busy so I'm also taking a while to reply back. Like the title says, how do you keep a girl hooked for longer time (a week or more) without turning into a texting buddy? I know this is not ideal, but please share some tips :)
