I was studying at the library and matched with this girl pretty late at night. Here’s a quick walkthrough of the interaction:

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Its about 11pm and the girl just got back from a sorority event date that did not go well. I’m thinking she’s probably dtf.
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She jumps on the wine soft close, and says shes feeling spontaneous and has her own room. Although I have not sexualized the interaction, I think it is pretty well understood that if we meet up we would have sex.
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Shit test 1: Why didn’t they invite you – I flip it on her by saying I had to study and already mentioned that before
Shit test 2: Fake number – I just assumed she will text me. I replied “Silly” and within 5 seconds she hits me up
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Just a bit of banter as we move to text.
Shit test 3: interesting (Spelled like a retard) – I think she’s just trying to tease me or whatever, but I flip it as if she is impatient to meet up
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So she asks for confirmation, which I say “Yes of course” but also give her an easy way out by saying “Unless is past your bed time.” I like to do this because it prevents her from saying no to me but rather to the situation, and can lead to just rescheduling it. She seems down so I say “That is the best type”
Now, I did not have wine at my place, so I send her a voice note saying that I could bring some beer instead. I also take this opportunity so she can hear my voice and convey I am a normal dude. She doesn’t reply, which I take as if she is having second thoughts or is asleep.
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I tease her for falling asleep and she replies “I promise” which tells me she might still be down to meet. But then she doesn’t reply (probably fell asleep again). I send her the last text to show I have boundaries and that I don’t want to waste my time.

I think this interaction was great except for one thing: I DID NOT SEXUALIZE THE CONVERSATION

It’s tinder so I’ve always implied that if you meet up with a match is to have sex, not to “split a bottle of wine,” so I’ve never felt the real need to do so. However, I feel that making her horny and sexualizing the conversation would ease the meet-up specially for these situations where I met at like 11pm and I am trying to meet up the same night. Leaving it at “sharing a wine bottle” fucked me up because it makes the interaction rely on the fact that I have to bring wine. I am not sure tho at what point in the conversation and how I should have made it sexual. What do you guys think?