Dodging Expensive Dates
Met this girl from tinder, incredibly hot and amazing personality. She probably would be very close to my ideal girl.
Went on a first date that was great but I just couldnt escalate, I could feel she was just not there yet.
Went on a second date where she came to my place. We made out, but gave me lmr as I brought her to my bed. At the end I fingered for a bit but then she stopped me and said "Sorry, I know this is probably frustrating for you." I kept my chill and told her it was not a big deal.
After texting so more she eventually told me "If youre looking for a girl to sleep with that is fine and I understand, I'd just wouldnt be that girl"
Now we are making plans to go to a third date and she suggested an expensive brunch place. Now money is not a problem, and I would be very down to see this girl for an actual relationship cause I actually enjoy her company. However, I dont want to go on expensive dates especially if we have only seen eachother twice and have not yet had sex.
Screenshot is irrelevant, last few texts were just logistics figuring out the time.
Then I suggested a place near my apartment
Then she suggested this fancy place.
Not sure how to reply. I dont know if I should be very honest and tell her I dont feel like going to a fancy place this early in the relationship or try to suggest a place with better logistics.
What do you guys think?
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"I feel like something simple, I'm keen for good [Mexican] and great company, let's try [some mexican place]"
I think it's better to say what you do want than what you don't want
good logistics is always a smart move but I suspect you'll be waiting a bit longer for sex with this girl
I ended up suggesting a better place, and she was very down. Problem solved.
From talking to other natural and advanced friends of mine the main takeaways were:
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You dont necesarilly need to have sex right away, it depends on the girl and on how your personalities mesh, but as long as youre moving the interaction forward and each time escalating a bit that is good enough. Dont freak out if it takes time to lay a girl, some girls are just like that.
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The logistics are not completely in my favor, so only do this type of stuff if you genuinelly enjoy hanging out with the girl and you wanna see were things go.
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From my experience getting close to Sex like that without having it has been real breaker almost every time. I can only remember 2-3 exceptions. This is why if I get close I will just try to figure out the real source of lmr, address it and smash.
Keep us updated on how it goes man