I went into the night with momentum firmly on my mind. Having boomed the night previous I was feeling a bit cocky / happy go lucky.
My mate and I went to a pub crawl from meetup com and I also invited one beginner type gamer I met at a previous one. Those events have a vague stigma, as generally the ratio is bad and the guys generally have low social awareness or experience.
I always try break away to chat up other non meetup people, and it really affects the girls in the meetup you've had good interactions with. They observe you not only demonstrating preselection but you are also set apart from your 'peers' at the meetup, separate to just every other dude in the venue.
One minor concern is lately I been going a bit overboard and getting lost in the moment talking about game with girls for too long or too deep. Kinda embrace the unashamed playboy vibe which is always well received but gotta remember to be normal mostly.
Our pub crawl meetup lot had diverged to me and my mates, met another young cunt gamer who is actually pretty legit - otherwise the other guys were orbitals and 2 sets of girls. I'd gamed both sets hard and was getting some strong eye contact from the irish bird who i number closed later.
But next table over were these 2 young honeys, when we first sat down in passing I told them to join us, they laughed and coyly refused. After sarging up the hottest blondie for ages and just having a good time I popped back to them had a chat - turns out they were 18 lols and the hot spare told me she was looking for a sugar daddy.
Made them guess my age they acted surprised or were, no anxiety from me on that front seem to be over that sticking point completely. Had a fun little chat but also was fully just putting on a show for the other girls that I had planted the seed of bouncing to next venue with us. Dunno how I would have gamed the young one further, obvs closer more kino and more challenging I guess. Get her to qualify more.
One group of girls peeled off and we did as a group goto our next pub, it was full but I chat to the bouncer just respectful and explained I talked up the bar to all these honeys what do we have to do to get in and he gave us a little special treatment, def gained some status from that I think.
Inside I kinda realised I needed to show intent to one of the girls and clearly choose her, so went with Irish who I think my buddy was keen on soz brah but she was eye fucking me hard that was just how it was gunna go. Got her number in front of her friends, she put in 'sexy bitch' as her last name. After that we all kinda hung as a group and I think I lost momentum. Kinda had her on her own and kino'd a bit but lots of intergroup chatting. Realised I had to isolate so I grabbed her and said I'd give her a tour, sadly the side venue door which adjoins them was locked so we couldn't, went back to group and it felt like it was petering out, even though she was actively trying me to stand near her.
In the end I left when I realised I was fucked, not sure if I coulda ballsed it up and got her back but didn't try. Thought I'd go for next day text game, but already texted her 10 in the morning, too early and keen I think. She probably thinking some incongruence with my initial dominant behaviour to slipping into chodish a bit. Maybe overthinking it.
In between I talked to the young good gamer G and asked his read, he told me I was right and had to let her feel some loss, don't be too available and compete with the chodes so I peeled off. And he was for sure right, he also had switched up to my blondie which I overgamed and seemed to be going well, I told him my read on his and how to proceed and he went for it - will have to find out how he went.
When I peeled off I had this young honey in a smoking tight black dress give me some eyes walking past, I grabbed her, hey love hows it going. Music too loud so couldn't verbal too much but tried with strong eye contact, she starts like sexy dancing for me and I was thinking fucking eh. Her friend is close and keeping an eye on her. I try a little kino and talk some dumb shit but felt like i lost my mojo.
She was def. keen but I didn't know what to do in the moment, was like am I supposed to go caveman here? Reflecting on it today I think how I know would have been optimal, I should have let her sexy dance for me and sit back take up space and eye fuck her hard. Then occasionally get up take her hands, maybe whisper in her ear subtle tone shit like your dress fits you so well, then sit back down let her keep performing for me. Anyway, thats the way it goes sometimes.
Eventually went back to Irish and the orbitals, tension felt pretty gone and I actually knocked my own drink over on myself haha. Fully embraced it and laughed it off she seemed fine but it was just at the time I told her I was leaving. She said she was also, with her guy housemate friend, not a competitor. Said we should go for food she said no carbs ugg, but we left together outside and I kinda just lost them didnt want to follow around like a lost dog and just texted her in teh cab good to meet you, you're fun so she had my number. She text back maybe 15 later good to meet you also kissy emoji.
Not a bad night, slightly disappointing it felt like I peaked after so much momentum and petered out. No biggie. Thinking about the number close with a good connection and no kiss to pursue in the next day of two as a superior model to ONS. Obviously ONS is pretty exhilarating but it is easy for either or both to get buyers remorse or some shame, think number first and follow up is a nice experience and narrative, particularly for her and the little story she tells herself about you as a duo.
Will def. try that more in teh future, have a strong interaction, get number early, leave on a high and pursue in a day or two for straight to house or straight to local bar just the 2 of you. Could potentially get a few leads in the one night, using your momentum each new set and they maybe even observed you going off. Also been thinking about patience, learning how important it is from online game, makes me think IRL probably subcommunicates a lot of status and value if you can demonstrate patience. Like respecting yourself that you take time to choose before you give her the bone type frame, imply she needs more investment as you have standards, also that you are not desperate for sex you already have abundance.
Mostly thinking about black dress and how I let that slip, need to improve my caveman primal game there for sure. Seduction tone and whispering with slowly escalating kino and maybe even tease her with the almost kiss and tell her she has to wait; that's for the cab ride home or some such.
