sup all,

just for some context, my IRL game is so much better than my online game. I'm really starting to internalize that I've had some oldschool chode beliefs holding me back, too gamey, think you gotta take a girl out to dinner or a bar etc.

Since following I've improved a lot and had a few good dates but last night was the first successful and normal straight over to my house close. It was a great night and a great learning experience.

This is my field report, will post my online chats but also the milestones and process for teh night. Obviously I don't feel entitled to any feedback but if you are willing to give some I'd like to know specifically around the online process

* principles - insight to where I followed principles or missed them
* any mistakes - particularly around misreading the situation, sexualised when I should have used a takeaway for example
* any general advice

BUMBLE / ONLINE

One thing that was interesting for me was that at no point was the online chat overtly sexual, I put out some innuendo feelers but she would laugh and kinda go back to vibing - I took this as she was looking for more comfort and wanted to confirm I was a normal dude? I asked her about this in person and she confirmed if a dude sends her a creepy first message she is out.

One funny part for me was she fucked up and was obviously sending her mate a screenshot of our convo but sent it to me by mistake. This was just after the hard close. What cracked me up though was after my name in her contacts she had an eggplant emoji haha.

Another point I wanted to discuss / thought about was she asked if there was anything she could bring. Since I have been thinking abstractly about the concept of investment, my oldschool chode belief was to be like OH NO BABY I GOT DIS IM DA MAN IM RICH AND SUCCESSFUL LOL. But instead said yeah if you like, knowing if she did bring something it would increase her investment, which in turn would raise my value and lower any chance of buyers remorse.

I know I'm still too fluffy, maybe need to drop the missy shit and X's ? I am pretty calm assertive in person so emotionally feel like I can get away with it, but maybe it is still sending some submissive / deferential signals, not sure.

IN PERSON

It all went pretty smoothly, dog was a nice icebreaker and she looked like her pics. I was just being normal and a bit charming, invited her in and let her settle her bag etc and got us some drinks.

A bit of joking and light flirting we moved to the balcony. I realise how superior the invite to home process is, as you can take your time with the kino escalation ladder. I was low key but made sure I touched her arm and pointed her body to the direction of hte balcony when saying lets go here etc.

Initial convo / glass of wine we chatted and her body was faced directly to me, good sign. I had good eye contact and let talk a bit, building rapport mostly laughing with some teasing. Occasional touch of knees but nothing much.

I thought of it a bit in terms of bouncing around the house. First bounce was to the kitchen, ok lets sort these snacks out - good excuse for some more touching, but not sexual more, move here, go there type vibe then back to the balcony.

After a while I asked her if she wanted a quick tour of the house, this is the dogs room (spare room) , blah blah just more excuses to lead around and get some more kino in. After we sit down again and next bounce is to the living room, cant recall the pretense or if I even used one.

She sits pretty close on the couch to me and I start brushing her leg more, stronger eye contact. We go through music together, after she went to the bathoom I turned off the main light which I felt at teh time was smooth haha, still can see each other fine just way less intense. Also now think it was natural and smoothly timed progression of the interaction.

Another pretense was show her to my office to look at my music on hard disk, so she could judge my tastes etc, just more flirting and touching. Another bounce to the balcony later to show her my scooter and here I led her hand on back and when there hands on hips get closer. No resistance and maybe some excitement.

On the couch I intentionally saved bringing up the screenshot social faux par from her to just before seduction. She was embarrassed and told me the story, I then asked her also one more question. She gets embarrassed and says she knows what I'm going to ask, I bring up whats the significance of teh eggplant emoji next to my name hehe, fun stuff.

Anyway, we get progressively closer then kiss and the rest is history.

I meant to ask her more about the bumble interaction and for some feedback but kinda forgot, but will probably see her again.

Overall though, was stoked with the whole process and have def. changed my beliefs regarding online game.

Going out tonight with the boys and will be coming in hot with some good momentum.