R

Posts by Ricardo Almeida

Sort By

This week was beyond my wildest expectations. I had 2 dates set up and I went out clubbing with my friends on friday. The first date was with a girl that has a boyfriend far away from the city. It was sort of a "I'll show you the city since you're new here vibe" But frankly I got great chemistry and great IOIs. I didn't game this girl too much though, I think I have a bit of a moral block when it comes to this stuff even though their relationship didn't seem too serious. Sort of undecided if I should try to change that mentality. The second one was with a Chinese girl that had lunch with me and then we started a language exchange class. The interaction didn't go bad but I caught myself slipping into the friendzone by the end so I just straight up told her that I think she's cute as fuck and that we should hang out more. She got really nervous and said that people usually do things slower in China. I did fuck up cause I said "If you don't like me it's ok" like twice which I recognize is really pussy shit. I managed to navigate the situation and make here really relax and we ended up sharing a nice handhold and a hug by the end. I'm not sure where this one is gonna go exactly but it was a very big step for me to actually have the balls to just tell her what I want. I also was not afraid to touch her, she recoiled a bit at first but then sort of got into my rythm. We'll see where it goes. Strangely the highlights of the week were 2 unicorns I met on the street. I met this really cute tanned Vietnamese girl through day game and she literally took me to her hotel room and we had a great afternoon into the night... So yeah. I guess my first lay is really unceremonious. I'm not TOO into her though, she's maybe a 7.5 and she keeps blowing up my phone after we fucked. The other one was a Chinese girl that I took on a direct coffee date and the conversation was getting a bit platonic until she made a joke and asked "Are you a pervert lol?" To which I just responded "Yes". We started heavily sexualizing after that and yeah. I banged her in her dorm. Again, extremely anti-climatic but it shows the value of not being afraid to be your true self. My biggest disappointment was night game. For some reason, day game comes really naturally to me but I'm sort of afraid to approach girls in nightclubs. I think it might be something to do with the loud music. It also didn't help that my friend was all depressed because of a guy and I felt like I had to babysit her the whole night, overall a bit of a shitty night but now we know what we need to work on. My next objective is to get a part-time job. I'm having a lot of trouble managing all these dates and nights out because I keep having to ask my parents for money and it's just sad. This week I'll search for something to do cause uni work is really easy this semester. Also decided to start martial arts instead of the gym cause frankly it's really boring for me. Things I've learned: Don't be afraid if girls react poorly to your touch. I've had this occur a few times with the Chinese lady and instead of saying "Oh I'm sorry" I find that saying stuff like "Haha you're kinda shy" works MUCH better. It gets her justifying her behavior to you and she's kinda the weird one. You can just play it off as normal flirtiness and reassure her that you're a chill guy. Abundance mentality will save your life, I got some natural reactions of neediness and obsessiveness with some girls this week but knowing that my phone is full of messages from other hot girls takes away all the bullshit. The reality is that we're great guys and we deserve great girls. If a girl fucks around with you or wastes your time she doesn't deserve you. Do not jerk off excessively. A lot of you guys recommended not jerking off at all which I agree with but in situations of extreme blueballs or just pain I'd say just let it out. DO NOT use porn though just jerk off to natural stuff or find a girl to bang. Things to improve: Need to get a job so I can continue improving my game consistently Fashion is a bit better but still far away from even 20% of ideal Sexualization needs to improve even further Online pics still dogshit Need to get my schedule in order Thanks for the therapy guys. I'll keep posting until I feel like I reached a level where I'm satisfied with my efforts.

2 Comments
2 Cmts
R

3 Posts (+2)

7 Cmts (+0)

R

3 Posts (+2), 7 Cmts (+0)

So my first week of rebuilding myself went really well. Turns out that I have absolutely no trouble dieting and exercising and I felt little to no temptation to cheat and so I didn't. I've started asking my girl friends for honest feedback and the trend has been "Handsome guy that absolutely blows his potential with poor grooming". So to really crank up my SMV I'll need to figure out my style. I have to figure out a haircut that's good for my big forehead and also be able to maintain it. I'm also gonna look into male grooming products and start showering every day rather than every other day. I expect this to be hard. Frankly, I have no idea how to do this but I'll give it a shot. If you guys know any good online content on this I'd love it if you told me. The other big problem is that I still live with my parents and don't make any money for myself, this is sort of normal in Portugal even up to a really old age sometimes but I don't want to use that as an excuse. I'm gonna start living alone in March so my logistics are gonna be tight, but not thrilled that it's just because my parents are gonna move to the Portuguese islands to make a fuck ton of money and I'm gonna stay here on their dime. Obviously, something that needs fixing, I hate asking for money from my parents as a 27-year-old. As soon as I finish my degree in September next year I'm gonna move abroad and start working, but in the meantime, I'll look into part-time jobs so I can have some disposable income of my own and not always ask mommy for an allowance. Improvements this week: Got into the rhythm of eating healthy and regular exercise with little effort. My texting has been off the charts this week Body language and voice tone mostly corrected Flaws I've noticed: Still have trouble getting into an abundance mindset, tend to focus on girls, and get really into them which throws the whole dynamic into chaos, they can feel me simping and they don't like it. Way too afraid to touch girls, I've been getting some good responses and some good chemistry but part of my difficulty sexualizing is touch. Really bad presentation even though I'm sort of good-looking Awful online profile means that I get no matches, but if it's an app that allows me to text without matching my results are great. I've got a date set up for Friday with this cute Chinese girl studying in Portugal and a few other less well-planned things on other days. Also gonna go out with friends to bars and clubs 2 times a week from now, and ironically one of the advantages of having been a guy that gets friend zoned is that I got a lot of hot girls to go out with, which helps in terms of pre-selection. Overall my verbals have gotten way better due to my change in mindset, I am utterly convinced that I'm a 10/10 and by having that mindset all my body language and verbals fell right into place, no longer trying to entertain girls and get their attention but just speaking frankly and doing what I feel like doing. Thing's I've learned: When it comes to online game, commenting on a girls fashion with a comment tailored to her is insanely good, had around 85% retention just by doing this. Careful not to comment on a girl's natural looks but rather something she had to work on. Turns out Alex is 100% right who would've figured. Never apologize for anything and make her feel like the weird one, had situations where I suggested meeting up with a girl and had responses like "Oh I'm not like that". There was a huge temptation of being this guy: "Omg I'm so sorry to offend you, please let's do everything your way" but of course, this is pussy-dryingly bad. I literally never apologize for anything now and just turn it on her with something like "You're not the kind of person that goes out lol?". Probably not the best but works way better than the simp approach. Fake time constraints are great for cold approach. I talked to 5 girls on the street this week and got all of their numbers (one was an actual 9 and it was hard not to tremble) . This really hot 9 told me she was in a rush and I sort of smoothly stepped in her way and just said: "Don't worry just 2 minutes I'm actually kind of in a rush too". Bang completely stopped, great IOIs and cheeky smiles. Haven't texted her yet cause I actually still have trouble believing I pulled it off and I'm sort of panicking. Thanks if you've read this far, what I need to seems pretty clear now and I will continue to work, this week I'll focus on working out until I can run for 10 mins and can do basic exercises without stopping in the middle. Also gonna start gathering data on fashion and grooming for men. I did not get laid this week but I feel that I'm getting into the tempo. If I fix my sexualization I think I can close at least 2 girls I know within the month (I can close 2 others but I'm not attracted to them). Thanks and have a great week boys, any suggestions please feel free to comment and thanks to the commenters on the last one they really helped steer me right.

+1
3 Comments
3 Cmts
R

3 Posts (+2)

7 Cmts (+0)

R

3 Posts (+2), 7 Cmts (+0)

So today is a bad day. I got a text from a Japanese girl that, to be honest, I didn't remember all that well and she seemed to wanna go out and have fun with me. I texted her back and she seemed really excited but it turned out she actually had the wrong number and when she remembered it was ME she instantly lost any interest whatsoever in continuing the conversation. She meant to text another guy with my name (Ricardo), I will attach an image of the guy she wanted to go out with instead for a few reasons. One, it will remind me that it can't possibly get any lower than this, and two, whenever you guys who are reading this feel shitty about yourselves, remember that I lost to a guy who is easily over 50 and bald as a motherfucker. My name is Ricardo, I'm 27 years old and will be 28 in June, I currently live in Portugal and I recently got back into university (will graduate next year) and I'll start living alone for the first time in March. My lay count is somewhere in the low dozens (close to 20) and with only a few exceptions, every girl I've been with was someone that I am not attracted to, I just fucked them cause I had no other options. I had an ex-girlfriend I really liked but we broke up. The girls I've banged aren't necessarily bad-looking but I seem to only be attracted to Asian girls, I know how to speak Japanese and am currently studying Mandarin, I do some English teaching on the side but I don't charge for it. I will try to list my traits as objectively as I can manage below. Strengths: Handsome(ish) Sociable Bold (not afraid to approach in the least) Have future prospects / ambitious Weaknesses: Overweight close to obese Despite being sociable I don't display desirable alpha traits, overall a bit girly and conciliatory when talking to people Dogshit online game (Terrible tinder pics/ sub-par texting) The reason I am making this post is this: I hate that I'm not improving myself as much as I could and I'm sick and tired of having the girls I actually care about lose interest in me and start to see me as a friend. I wanna stop being a pussy who keeps accepting being a mediocre human when I know I have a killer somewhere inside me. I've decided that is the day that I stop lamenting my bad luck and I start working to change it. From today, I will be working towards maximizing my SMV, changing my attitude, and ultimately reaching a place where I can get a high volume of girls that I'm attracted to. Obviously, since I live in Portugal that's not gonna be doable that early (I plan to move to an Asian country when I graduate) but there are still white girls I like and I know like 70% of the Chinese girls here in my city. In any case, I can certainly be doing more than just sitting on my ass and playing video games that I don't even like. I'll focus on getting better until I become a man that I'm proud of being. That's where this "diary" comes in. I want you guys to keep me honest, I'm gonna post my progress on a weekly basis here's what I've planned for this week: 1- Workout every day at home and go for a walk (I can't manage running quite yet) 2- Stop being a constant jokester around the girls I'm into ( I go out with a few every week) 3- Limit my jerking off to twice a week for now 4- Leave my house every day and study mandarin at the mall 5- Eat healthily and drink water, I will allow a cheat night on Saturday 6- Try to groom myself better, I'm terrible at keeping my beard not gay and my presentation is bad My next big milestone objective is to get into shape and not be such a mess in terms of looks, I'm not an ugly guy by any means but I'm way too overweight and my hygiene and presentation could be better. I also dress a bit hobo-ish. So I will consider this first step complete when I can take photos of myself that I am proud of, and when that happens, I'm gonna invest in a professional photo shoot so I can get my tinder game in order. This is the first step, I'm predicting 4-6 months of working out every day and controlling my diet. Thanks to PWF I managed to get my texting game to a very acceptable level, I use the app "Tandem" which is a language learning app to talk to Asian girls and I've been having around 80% of the girls I like be into me and agreeing to come to visit me in Portugal which is kind of an insane transformation, but I can't rely on girls that live so far away and I need to make progress here where I live. I'm just writing this little section to tell you guys that if you really take in what Alex teaches you, you WILL see results. For me it was somewhat of a day-night transformation, girls on tandem never used to reply but now almost every girl texts me excitedly. Now I just need to get my online profiles in order so girls actually swipe on me (I get swiped about once every 2 weeks on tinder, and they're always 3 or 4s, but since I can text girls without swiping on tandem it works MUCH better, same with OKCUPID actually). That's it for this first post, next Sunday I WILL post an update and I will be brutally honest about my progress. Thanks for your time guys, if you have suggestions please do contact me, also if you're in Portugal and wanna work together hmu.

+1
7 Comments
7 Cmts
R

3 Posts (+2)

7 Cmts (+0)

R

3 Posts (+2), 7 Cmts (+0)

Playing With Fire Logo