Week 1 - Tempo

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So my first week of rebuilding myself went really well. Turns out that I have absolutely no trouble dieting and exercising and I felt little to no temptation to cheat and so I didn't. I've started asking my girl friends for honest feedback and the trend has been "Handsome guy that absolutely blows his potential with poor grooming". So to really crank up my SMV I'll need to figure out my style. I have to figure out a haircut that's good for my big forehead and also be able to maintain it. I'm also gonna look into male grooming products and start showering every day rather than every other day. I expect this to be hard. Frankly, I have no idea how to do this but I'll give it a shot. If you guys know any good online content on this I'd love it if you told me.
The other big problem is that I still live with my parents and don't make any money for myself, this is sort of normal in Portugal even up to a really old age sometimes but I don't want to use that as an excuse. I'm gonna start living alone in March so my logistics are gonna be tight, but not thrilled that it's just because my parents are gonna move to the Portuguese islands to make a fuck ton of money and I'm gonna stay here on their dime. Obviously, something that needs fixing, I hate asking for money from my parents as a 27-year-old. As soon as I finish my degree in September next year I'm gonna move abroad and start working, but in the meantime, I'll look into part-time jobs so I can have some disposable income of my own and not always ask mommy for an allowance.

Improvements this week:

  • Got into the rhythm of eating healthy and regular exercise with little effort.
  • My texting has been off the charts this week
  • Body language and voice tone mostly corrected

Flaws I've noticed:

  • Still have trouble getting into an abundance mindset, tend to focus on girls, and get really into them which throws the whole dynamic into chaos, they can feel me simping and they don't like it.
  • Way too afraid to touch girls, I've been getting some good responses and some good chemistry but part of my difficulty sexualizing is touch.
  • Really bad presentation even though I'm sort of good-looking
  • Awful online profile means that I get no matches, but if it's an app that allows me to text without matching my results are great.

I've got a date set up for Friday with this cute Chinese girl studying in Portugal and a few other less well-planned things on other days. Also gonna go out with friends to bars and clubs 2 times a week from now, and ironically one of the advantages of having been a guy that gets friend zoned is that I got a lot of hot girls to go out with, which helps in terms of pre-selection. Overall my verbals have gotten way better due to my change in mindset, I am utterly convinced that I'm a 10/10 and by having that mindset all my body language and verbals fell right into place, no longer trying to entertain girls and get their attention but just speaking frankly and doing what I feel like doing.

Thing's I've learned:

  • When it comes to online game, commenting on a girls fashion with a comment tailored to her is insanely good, had around 85% retention just by doing this. Careful not to comment on a girl's natural looks but rather something she had to work on. Turns out Alex is 100% right who would've figured.
  • Never apologize for anything and make her feel like the weird one, had situations where I suggested meeting up with a girl and had responses like "Oh I'm not like that". There was a huge temptation of being this guy: "Omg I'm so sorry to offend you, please let's do everything your way" but of course, this is pussy-dryingly bad. I literally never apologize for anything now and just turn it on her with something like "You're not the kind of person that goes out lol?". Probably not the best but works way better than the simp approach.
  • Fake time constraints are great for cold approach. I talked to 5 girls on the street this week and got all of their numbers (one was an actual 9 and it was hard not to tremble) .
    This really hot 9 told me she was in a rush and I sort of smoothly stepped in her way and just said: "Don't worry just 2 minutes I'm actually kind of in a rush too". Bang completely stopped, great IOIs and cheeky smiles. Haven't texted her yet cause I actually still have trouble believing I pulled it off and I'm sort of panicking.

Thanks if you've read this far, what I need to seems pretty clear now and I will continue to work, this week I'll focus on working out until I can run for 10 mins and can do basic exercises without stopping in the middle. Also gonna start gathering data on fashion and grooming for men. I did not get laid this week but I feel that I'm getting into the tempo. If I fix my sexualization I think I can close at least 2 girls I know within the month (I can close 2 others but I'm not attracted to them). Thanks and have a great week boys, any suggestions please feel free to comment and thanks to the commenters on the last one they really helped steer me right.

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''I can close at least 2 girls I know within the month (I can close 2 others but I'm not attracted to them)''
Get the experience, i don't care if you can or not, you will only get better from this.
No bullshit excuses.

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This is all assuming I can get my sexualization in order which I'm really struggling with. But I'm picking up what you're putting down bro. Less talky more bangy.

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Good stuff bro

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