Posts by Aly River
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Her profile says she just moved here from Baltimore 1 "Yeah it really is. And you probably haven't even experienced the best part yet" + "My presence of course" when she replies Or is that too gamey / should I go for more banter first? 2 "Yea it's got some solid spots. How long you been in town?" Which also possibly could lead into "Nice, I've been here around a year myself. I'll have to properly welcome you to the city sometime š"
"Oh noo, are you high risk or something?" (Assuming she's covid cautious, maybe has a health condition) Ps not sure if you saw my Hadis update but we're seeing each other casually now (met up yesterday for the 3rd time to hang out / fuck / cuddle / etc). I'd want more but she says she doesn't see me romantically anymore and just wants to be fwb. Better than nothing though. Thanks for the support last week, even telling me there'd be a chance to rekindle gave me more confidence going into the closure meetup
Some things have been bugging me a lot since the breakup including that she was really into me just a few days before we broke up. She bought an extra plane ticket to end her family vacation early to see me because she missed me so much, told me how she loves me and all she wants is to live with me somewhere, and just a few days later she ended it over fights she started. And pretty regularly I've been ruminating about things, wondering if e.g. she broke up with me because she felt she had to choose between living with me in another city or live with her family here in SF (which would be silly because I might even stay in SF), or because I told her I wanted her to be my gf and she interpreted that as more serious than I meant, etc So I'm thinking meeting up to talk might help me get a better picture of what happened and feel better about how we're parting ways (it was an abrupt breakup with no contact which also feels weird). Ngl 20% of me also hopes for an extension of our relationship but 80% of me just wants to at least talk some things out to understand better. But idk how to word it in a way that doesn't make me look like a beta fag (Ignore the texts in the screenshot, those are from months ago and we only broke up a month ago) Also. Not even sure I do wanna message her. The emotions come and then go in waves, and in the more sober moments I realize I'm possibly just forgetting female nature, hypergamy, that the real answer is maybe just that she branch swung (or intended to) because e.g. my RMV wasn't as high in her eyes as my SMV (hence why from the start she seemed to just wanna be fuckbuddies even though we ended up falling for each other), or that I showed neediness near the end which drove her away, and there might not be much deeper answers to be found. Just like neediness will drive a girl away before you start dating and there's not much more to it if a girl ghosts you after a needy text. Just feels weirder when it happens while the girl is really in love with you. But I guess love and hypergamy don't always fall in line with each other
