The soft closed I used was “ going to the grocery store, what should I get to cook for us later” When she got here I met her out side and gave her a hug and led her upstairs I already had the food ready . And while I was eating I was basically using humor to break her nervous. After we finished eating I just filled the rules of escalating by moving closer to her naturally. Comments about her hair and tattoo to provide physical touch. Then I brought her out to the balcony to prove it was “ romantic” I do have a really nice view. I used showing the view as an excuse to put my arms around her and point her in the right direction. She was extremely receptive of this so when we got back inside she was sitting extremely close to me and laughed at everything I said. So I went for it and we had a fun time then watched rick and morty