This is a long one, so feel free to address what you want. I called into the show yesterday and you can see that here, I explain a little of my situation there. https://youtu.be/Zvq9TPzEStY?t=1928 The advise I got was extremely helpful and I even tried the take your sweater off so I can see those tutties thing with a different 21 YO that night and it worked. I want to preface by saying I am a straight up newbie and have been fucking up like crazy, I learn by doing and making a lot of mistakes and that's just how it is with me. I'm not beating myself up and just want to learn. Regarding the 21 YO I mention in the video, I think I fucked up the follow up text game and demonstrated low value, and simping. She hasn't ghosted me yet, I don't know if she is worth the headache anyway, lesson learned and if it's over that's fine, I'll reengage later. The coffee date nerdy chick from the morning, I should have lasted another five minutes but we 69 and I fucked the shit out of her, she was squealing and said I'm cumming and she seemed completely dick whipped. I think she is very non sexual with texting and even talking but super down. I probably should have hung out and cuddled with her more but I damn near kicked her out 20min after. I packed my shit for the gym and was leaving, not super quick but probably not optimal. I may set something up for tomorrow if she is available or even tonight but I don't know if I have it in me for tonight. Last texts where , " that was 🔥🔥 I didn't know you were capable of that and you blew my mind. Her " now you know one of the reasons most exes want me back" then several hours later. "Lance isn't a common name these days. But in medieval times, people were named Lance a lot. :D" I have no fucking idea what to make of that, my name is not lance. Drinks date, she was huge, I chatted for 5 minutes gave her a hug and bounced. I was trying to set up a date with this other 21 YO for the next day but she was down for that night and I was disappointed by the cat fish so I said fuck yeah. I actually followed Alex's advise, I escalated a lot faster and smoother. Things went sidewise, I'll explain her take, what happened and my take. I picked her up from work at this senior living place and she was still in her scrubs, she said she was on her period, felt grows had not showered and was on her period and sex is difficult on a first date. She was an amazing kisser and was biting the shit out of my lip and caressing my neck and head like a pro, I had to ask her to stop biting so hard, maybe I should have just sucked it up. When it comes to sex I actually like a lot of naked making out, foreplay, 69, make it really epic. But she was kind of pushing it forward very subtly and this was going over my head at the time. I think she just wanted me to fuck her and not mess around, she sort of scuttled me on top to where my dick was on her pussy and she was starting to work it and I was not hard, I'm used to chicks at least using their hand or mouth to get things going but I don't always have that crutch I guess. I should have just let myself get hard there and fuck her but I wanted to do the whole epic foreplay sex in multiple positions thing. If I had not got laid in the morning I guarantee I would have gotten hard no problem. Basically my attempts to play with her pussy, eat her pussy, foreplay ect. basically put the breaks on her sexual arousal hardcore, she was literally still putting her legs back and down to fuck but I felt completely weirded out and could not get it up, if I started beating it like crazy or put on some porn maybe I could have done it. I called it off and things were pretty silent and akward for 15 minutes and I was going to take her home she said it was up to me but I could tell she wanted to stay. We ended up talking and both opening up a lot. We did a NO2 balloon and hung out for another hour and she was honestly having a great time. She was down to stay over or get more alcohol but I decided to drive her home. it was kind of a long drive and she was blasting the music using my phone to pick songs, dancing, it was a snowstorm and when I put my brights on she was like "warp speed" ect. She invited me to her apartment and showed me around and showed me her BDSM stuff and we smoked a bowl and I headed out. The next day I text that I had a good time and she is a sweetheart and she text back 😊😊 me too. She is cool as fuck and not a fucking blabbermouth like most chicks. My take: If I pick up a girl from work, then offer to take them by their apartment to grab stuff, freshen up whatever, I want to do this in a way that is respectful not like making it obviously about sex. Also I need to get my T levels checked, keep working on my health. I should have just scheduled this for the next day honestly. I should probably get some boner pills just for emergencies like if it's the second date in the day and I think there may be an issue.