Hello, I really appreciate the advise from PWF and it is way better than the average garbage advise on reddit. Also, a lot of the Red Pill and MGTOW advise on YouTube is riddled with unhelpful information and lacks context and real examples.
Anyway, I have two kids 1 and 3, and I just got divorced. The advise on the internet is to go ahead and have pics of the kids and mention them in your profile, I'm glad I ran into just a few sentences where Alex said not to do this. I agree and this was actually my initial thought as well. I haven't seen him go into this in depth, basically what I'm wondering is, if I don't bring it up out of the blue, they probably aren't going to ask me out of the blue, and if they show up at my house and there's a changing table and bottles and some of my ex wife's shit is still there will they just be like WTF dude? I had the idea of taking my Bumble in a different direction to target different girls than my Tinder so maybe I will mention them on Bumble.
I can go way more into depth of my situation but I will start here and not spam you guys. Thanks a lot, everything has been extremely helpful so far.
Funny enough as someone in a similar situation to yourself I asked Alex about this recently via DM and he basically reiterated leaving my kid out of my pics or profile message and only mention it if I know the girl is a single mom since they won't disqualify you (It doesn't appear to hurt so far).
Maybe try and relegate certain rooms to where your kids stuff before a date that you can kind of address there (easier said then done) if you are really worried about a girl being upset about it. I think in general if you play it as "oh I didn't mention that, thought I did..." type thing and just make it not a big deal then they will mostly go with the flow.
I think the one caveat is girls who are in their early - mid 20s have a higher chance of not wanting to get with to date a guy with a kid.
Also it depends on what you are looking for. ONS, rotation girl or actual relationship. The more you are looking for something that resembles a relationship the more you may want to bring it up earlier (like for sure after sex the first at some point mentioning you gotta do xyz for your kids like you had already mentioned them).
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Yeah. Definitely don't put pictures of kids on your profile lol. That's something girls do. But, they screen out everyone who isn't looking for a serious relationship that way. On bumble, you have the option to mention kids. So, I'd suggest doing one of the two things.