I really apricate the brutal honesty and practicality of PWF, and I think it's saving me months and months of muddling around. If you don't give a shit about my life story then skip this paragraph. My situation is I just divorced the first woman I seriously dated a few months ago, I have two little kids. Also, I basically am recovering from being a total recluse obsessed with Buddhism for the last 1-3 years, I think this was due to all the emotional abuse and COVID didn't help. I have completely abandoned that and am reverting to the wild person I was at 25, I am 31 and in pretty good shape, slightly on the skinny side with good muscle 5'7'' hansom, I rate my SMV at a 3 if I'm being generous, I would say it was a -3 when I was trying the dating apps for a few weeks 3+ weeks ago. I decided that my pics were just to garbage and hid my profile. I was texting a few low value girls and I think my text game will improve sense I just discovered PWF when I decided to shut it down, and I realized several mistakes I was making.

My question is this, in a city of about 300K, is there any longer term harm to your prospects by having a crappy Tinder profile, or is the Tinder user base changing so quickly all the time that it really does not matter?

Is a "monk mode" period of just focusing on getting your life in order recommended? Over the last couple weeks I have gotten 1 decent photo, some better clothes, and scrubbed away all the nerd/creep vibes. I'm honestly a pretty cool dude to be around in general, good at listening and pretty chill and funny and stuff, I think flirting and holding sexual tension is what I need to improve. I have some decent dating experience when I met my ex-wife. I still only have 1 passible photo because I wasn't taking pics of myself when I was married. I'm connecting with old friends and putting myself out there. But until I put myself on the dating apps again I'm in all likelihood not going to be working on my text game and flirting closing.