So this is a second part, I let the tension last a bit since I didn’t find the need to reply quickly and she decided to text again with something very forward. Any thoughts on how I should handle this. First thought is, “well lucky for you I’m a great cuddler.” But that seems like I’m selling to her I want her to sell to me so let me know. Second thought is I invite her to drinks but she also doesn’t want to go out so I kinda want to find a way to make her invite me to her place. LMK
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I mean her message is pretty much already inviting you over. What're you overthinking here? Go along with it. Something like "Hmm, I like the way you think (her name)...Would you say you're a good cuddler?" Boom. She already seems relatively invested so chances are she will likely say yes (what girl wouldn't) and move from there. Don't overthink it brotha.
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Nah his conscious is keeping it a buck with him. This is weird ninja girl bait. You could fuck it up easily by saying some shit like “We could arrange that” / anything that harps too much on the idea of “OOHH GIRL SAID SHE LONELY IN BED THAT MEAN SEX” chimp noises. I didn’t see his last texts so maybe I’m missing something tho. Just going if this one screen
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While I do agree with you for the most part, I am going off what he already wanted to say/where he wants to take the interaction. Sure, it could be bait on her end and then she might screen him out, but then if he goes your way and doesn't make his intentions clear, she could easily screen him out on the 'date' unless he is extremely on point in the attraction building. It's a double edged blade here
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what do you think about something like "Wow girl, not even gonna buy me dinner first?" but honestly looks like they have been talking for a bit, so simplest reply is just "agreed, we should split a bottle of wine & watch a movie sometime" then after she agrees get her off the app. Thoughts?
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I have no clue how you are considering this as a shit test. She is showing interest. How does that translate to her shit testing you man?
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I posted one where it was just her messaging me the first message, I didn’t respond and sent the other 3 messages 4 hours later
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"Well. Hope you made some hot soup for our cuddles date"
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It’s bait don’t take it lol. The “generic” guy might sexualize to much here. The perfect response here imo keeps the subject but in a vibe friendly, non fuck boy way
“I don’t count serial killer docs or medical dramas as good movies so be warned” [Stays on topic while not overtly sexualizing]
“I accept your date invitation. That took balls” [Puts the investment frame on her, completely sidestepping the bait]
“If you’re lazy you can just say it. I’ll buy a baby stroller and just roll you around in that” [use this to convert/convince the frame to be a “let’s go out and do something” frame. This is my least concrete response because it depends heavily on what you say going forward]