I had a ONS with this girl. She then told me that she wanted something serious.
39 Posts (+1), 57 Cmts (+6)
So then I arranged a date on Thursday. The day of the date she cancels and said she had to go back home to London (she really is in London though I’ve seen it in her story). How can I try secure the date? She didn’t reply to my last message. Should I double text? Please help
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bro you're seeming a lil needy or value extracting with the text
when are you free this week?
get drinks next thrusday?
still on for tonight?
when are you back?
do something when you get back?
these were all on just 2 screenshots of text
You gotta sprinkle in some alt texts too imo, also in the title you mentioned "She wanted something serious" where was this mentioned? best to provide full context homie
39 Posts (+1), 57 Cmts (+6)
Do you think I could say something like “how was London” or something like that? She has left me on delivered since Thursday
39 Posts (+1), 57 Cmts (+6)
So the full context is we are both university students. I met her in a bar and we went back to her house. We then had sex about 4 times.
The next morning I had work at 9. When my alarm went off she said I should call in sick so I can spend the whole day with her. I ended up just talking to her and kissing her and only ended up going to work at about 11. She said can I keep your shirt so that I can make sure you come back because I want to see you again and I have heard you are a f*ck boi. I told her I’ll keep my shirt but I’ll message you. I then said would you want to go for drinks later this week and she said yes. I then told her I’ll message her and confirm the details. That same day she messaged me asking about my job. This all happened on Saturday night.
Then yesterday, which was Monday next week (not the Monday straight after but the Monday the week after that) I see her again in a nightclub. We kiss and then I ask her if she wants to go home with me. She’s says she can’t because she is with her friends (which means nothing because she was with her friends last time aswell). I feel as though I am coming off a bit needy but I think it was because I was too into her because she is like a 10.
And she also didn’t end up opening my last message.
bro, you gotta learn how to handle objections/shit test, if she said she is with her friends, I'd say something like so am I, we'll come back afterwards. Also why didn't you setup date then after at the nightclub? always better to setup/handle stuff in person.
As far as text thread idk full context but a simple
"Dont think too hard now"
might work
but yeah man, hanging with other girls is good way to solve neediness, I'd be working other leads, let us know how it goes, best wishes
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why did you DLV by saying you lost your job mate? Even if it was a joke, I personally wouldn't even start to put myself in that frame, if anything you've been promoted and are running things. It was not going to earn you any sympathy points, just make you look like a less attractive option in her eyes, rule of thumb: you can be homeless and freezing your nuts off but if a girl asks how's it going always respond positive, everything is cool in your world. Why when she says she's free from Wednesday you respond with Thursday, I think she wants to be asked out for weds or she wouldn't even have said it. if you were busy weds. I would have DHV, saying something like Wednesday's no good, I'm quite busy. How's Thursday? When she last minute flaked on you, I wouldn't have been so quick to accept this, you always wanna say something like: "Breaking my heart (girl name), Oh. Damn, or I understand. Then, allow room for the girl to offer the reschedule. Lastly, you're coming off too eager to meet on the last exchange and don't even have a plan, just "wanna do something when you're back." as it is now, I wouldn't even text her, let her text you back even if it takes 4-5 days, and by then actually have a plan for the date (something simple, drinks at a bar). and just tell her you've made plans for us or something demonstrating we frame and you actually have a plan for this date, and let her ask so you can slowly trickle info on the date one piece at a time, getting her to say yes to each part. Like she says "Ooo, what's this date" You say "Well, have you been to "Biaggi's?" she may say "No, what's that?" then you could say "It's an Italian spot, we'll split a bottle of wine there." she may then say "Ooo, I like that, can we do a dry sweet wine?" you could flirt back with "if you wear the top from the profile pic ;)"
39 Posts (+1), 57 Cmts (+6)
Thanks man my text game is bad. What should I do if she doesn’t reply within 5 days. Should I say something like “didn’t think you were the flakey type?”. The reason I think I should pursue it is after I had sex with her she seemed super into me and told me that she wants to go on a date but now I’m not sure if she’s still interested.
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Ball is her court right now man, you've given her an explicit indication that you would like to see her again and that's that. You really gotta be careful about being too full on or needy so I'd recommend you to just leave it and focus your attention on more pressing issues. Sounds like you want a relationship yourself since shes got you questioning the ONS status? If so then please don't be fucking gamey now with that "didn't think you were the flakey type" bullshit. Those lines work in certain contexts but in this case it's not gonna make her cream her panties, especially after the DLV saying you lost your job.