I've never done BDSM, don't know much about it. But I took Alex's advice and put dominant on my profile.
Somehow I landed upon an unsuspecting BDSM chick and I'm not sure how to proceed.
She alluded to having equipment at home, though I'm uncertain if it's sarcasm. Do I need to purchase any gear, and is she going to expect that I know certain etiquette and guidelines?
Help a newbie out :) Any advice and criticism welcome. Messages are labeled in numerical order.
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9 Posts (+2), 21 Cmts (+6)
I realize I'm years late, but I like "Gonna use my fingers to type this message"
4 Posts (+2), 49 Cmts (+26)
Some pretty tight text game from what I can see. Obviously you gotta go for Friday.
But if you make it to her place and lose the bang, it's not cause you didn't know bdsm terms or didn't bring gear
2 possible situations:
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She isn't hardcore into bdsm but just likes being dominated
Maybe tie up her wrists, choking, etc. (look up 2 column bondage knots) This kinda shit can make a inexperienced girl clingy -
She's hardcore to the point where you feel overwhelmed
What I say in this situation is
--"I have a rule that I don't do bondage the first time with a new girl"
She asks why
--"You seem cool but I don't like how it makes some girls clingy"
She gives some objection like "I'm not like that"
--Make out with her and finger
23 Posts (+21), 65 Cmts (+28)
Agreed like your texting in particular "ah you want a pen pal" lol
8 Posts (+6), 45 Cmts (+6)
Thanks, excellent feedback, will report back.
bdsm is fun, I invested in a couple of things: under the bed restraints, cuffs, flogger, spanker, shibari ropes. I introduce the girls slowly to it usualy on the 3rd fuck date, I rarely do it on the first time I bang her because I'm lazy and just tell her "I need to trust you first".
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
it can never hurt to go on Amazon and purchase $30 BDSM kit. However, it is not necessary. You can always say that you just moved and all your shit is still in storage.
The only thing you should do is just generally be sexually dominant when she comes over. Don't be afraid to pull her hair and what not.