After she flaked me once
I'd post the screens but it's in italian, I'd have to translate.
Follow up on the girl who I had to see after quarantine canceled our plans, we agree on saturday evening and the day before she starts bringing up the possible rain, I tell her that if she can do sunday it's fine by me, she says she'll let me know.
Saturday I check up and she says she doesn't know for sunday, I send her a voice telling her to just go that afternoon as it would not rain before late evening, she agrees, but 2 hrs before the date she brings up excuses and says sorry I'll have to reschedule in the week. I tell her to let me know when she's free and I'll let her know if I'm free myself.
I find it hard for a girl to bring up a date herself so I intend on texting her Wed or Thursday and escalating again to a soft close, is it the right way to proceed? Or should I bring up what the problem is since she's already met me in person (2/3 months ago) and the convo has always went swimmingly?
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Hm Its pretty evident she has some kind of unanswered concern. The time to address that was earlier though. You can say “look, if you’re not into the just lmk and I can stop trying”
But it’s hard for me to give you an exact direction without seeing texts
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Yeah I tought that too, I guess now I have to reopen like nothing happened and try to soft close again? Did I adress her flake well by not showing I mind and saying you let me know then?
Thank you for your time, I'll translate the last messages below.
Me: "This is the place, lets meet in front"
Her: "Looks good only thing is that maybe tomorrow afternoon it's raining"
H: "maybe it woudl be best to reschedule?
M: It could rain yes, would sunday (2 days after tomorrow) be good?
H: So, sunday afternoon I could have to meet a friend, nothing sure tho, is it alright if I let you know somethign tomorrow?
M: aight lets agree on that, maybe the weather gets better
H: yes indeed
M: (was 11:30 am) Did you know anything?
H: no nothign yet
M: through vooice I tell her lets do this afternoon since even if it does rain we'll be done by then
H: ok lets
M: ok lets meet at the place by 3 pm
H: Aaaalright
H: (1pm) Look, maybe its best if we reschedule in the week cause today I have to study and they are forecasting hail (it didnt even rain that afternoon) and I have to drive home. I also have a lot of allergy (to pollen but she never brought it up berfore) and so it woudl be better if we reschedule cause I wouldn't be in ideal conditions lol. idk if you are allergic but if you were you'd get it lol
M: aight when you are free lmk and I'll tell you if I can
H: yes sure sounds good
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Nah you didn’t man. That was the time to figure out what concerns she has
Moving forewarned yes try opening and soft closing again, if she gives you push back then try to dig to figure out whats up