I feel like I am spinning wheels with online dating. I do not have alot of experience and just started researching all this about a year ago. I would not say I have gotten better with women even though I have been reading and researching alot, I would say I am more aware of what to do and the situation I am in. I had recently went on a first date, through text I was trying to flirt and playful and although she was responsive I could tell she was little dull. On the date we met up for 2 drinks on a week day happy hour. I can tell off the bat that the girl was more formal (a career women 26 who lives alone, and likes to live alone she said). I found it very hard to get the conversation to get in anyway playful sexual, although we had great conversations I can tell it was getting to platonic even though in the back of my mine I was trying very hard not to. We parted ways and I texted her next day to let her know I enjoyed the drinks. She said she did not feel a romantic connection. Can somone explain if they have any similar situations and if they can provide insight as to what this means, how would we create a romantic connection in 2 hours when she isn't open to being romantic. We basically matched had a few back and forth texts and met up, so I doubt I came off different from my texts and my photos are pretty up to date. I have had a similar instance about 1 month ago and honestly felt like the same situation and same type of women (career women/non playful/flirty) I am starting to get more experience and could tell through the texts pre date that her interest was enough to go on a date but not excited and on the date I could feel the same vibe.