Alex, curious your thoughts on what (if anything) went wrong here, and how to re-engage? This girl was super invested in prior conversation, at least 2:1 were the length of her texts to my texts, and we'd messaged a fair bit before this. She hard closed me, proposing a date and time that we get together, and it worked so I rolled with it. She insisted on a public meet though, and I hadn't had a chance to sexualize the convo at all, so I started to push it in that direction. Did I push it a bit too far with the final message? Thinking there was, she'd been super invested and compliant in the conversation, so I wanted to try to get her to qualify her comfort with her sexuality to help set the right frame for our date. Was thinking of sending "But if you're not so comfortable with your sexuality, I'd totally understand!" to try to stick her in a shy/innocent frame and hopefully qualify herself.
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I never understand why nobody wants to sexualize on the date ? It's not a loss if you didn't by text. You can still set the frame on the date.
I've actually never got a fuckdate because the girl delete me or doesn't approve of it when i try to sexualize by text, so i do it on the date
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I mean, Alex and David and Indian PE and many others on here have proven that successfully sexualizing by text greatly increases the chances of closing on the date.
You can see early on she's even quite compliant with the sexualization - she asks me to share the "R rated one"!
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Agreed. But even if you did, you can still do that on the date (like a girl you approached in the street and then met afterwards on a date) and close. Honestly all my dates on online apps have been like this (because i still can't pull off the David and Nitin hardcore sexualisation by text)