Hey guys, first time posting here. Alex's videos have been a big help to me, but I'm still a beginner in learning good text game and this interaction is far from my best work, so any advice for what I could do with this case, or just in general, would be useful to me. I've been exchanging messages with this girl who is very much my type on Bumble for the past couple of days. I managed a decent reframe early in our conversation and displayed some confidence, but she ultimately doesn't seem that invested and I'm having trouble puzzling out where to go from here. The spliced together screenshots pick up from this morning when I reengaged her with the Ryan Gosling meme.
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I'm also not a pro myself, but it's easy to critique when you're the 3rd party observer not on the spot.
From what I can see :-
Your opener was a bit try hard (something I'm working on too.)
You said project + nephew, trying to hit double emotional triggers, but you forgot involving her into it.
So Alex's "Just finished a killer workout, have a great pump for our big date".
Value + Involving her.
You said staying home and safe, then you said all action you can get in on, and you did it as a follow up to an "ok ic" very low investment/emotion/excitement from her. IT didn't make sense there imo.
That's why she asks what action, because there was nothing you wrote about, just safety.
No point in replying about how many matches, that was useless bs from her part, your part about only eyes for you was nice.
But you're building her up and validating her without her engaging at all when you say "you know what you like if 5".
Anyways the rest I couldn't make sense of but also she is just super low interest.
It's a numbers game, learn what you can from here, don't validate her unnecessarily, and move on to the next.
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This alone can probably sum up my main issue with the whole interaction. Building compliance and working on my 'pushing' and 'pulling' is something I've been experimenting with recently, and though I was trying to do that in this interaction, it didn't quite work out without me selling myself in the process.
Thanks for your help, this has been useful.
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One last suggestion, for such extremely low investment chicks use the "Are you always this talkative" and similar kind of lines to make them talk more. That said though, remember the numbers game and ignore the low investments in general. You get to ACTUALLY learn from the high investment ones that you can't convert from, because they give you enough content and context to learn WHERE you failed. This I pointed some things out but she kind of gave you nothing at all man, you were playing with literally nothing.
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Relax man it's easy for me to see this as an outsider, I fucking stumble and bumble like a buffoon myself when pussy is on the line. The goal is to learn from the others that are doing it and how they are doing it. I might just start using the Hey Trouble and the simplest fucking lines that Alex uses himself. My fear is that girls will call me out on it being too common, but fuck that noise, I'm just going to keep using em.