I try to (1) keep it as invested as the girl or less, (2) fun/flirty, and (3) soft close when ready but I seem to get a lot of ghosting on hinge. These girls are cute but the flake rate is ~80%. Anything obvious I'm messing up on? 3 sets of examples attached, with varying levels of investment from the girl from start to finish. I've tried investing even less before but got even more ghosting, which is why my messages are now between 70-100% the length of hers.
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In my honest opinion I feel like this is everything you should avoid. It’s just too much back and forth unnecessarily and it’s not really going anywhere. The escalation seems a bit uncalibrated and there’s no “build up” to it. Also with girl 3 it seems the wrong takeaways/reengagements were used based on the context.
Also I don’t see these texts as being flirty at all. It’s such a friendly, platonic vibe. You can save the getting to know each other for when you have the date. In the meantime your texting should be sweet and to the point.
If you have a look at previous LRs on this forum and compare, I’m afraid the difference is day and night. Sure you can send long texts every now and again but it heavily depends on context and you definitely don’t wanna do so early on in the interaction.
Try to keep it as low effort for the girl as possible also. Short, sweet, playful vibe and then you strike when the time is right.
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Thanks but can you give me concrete examples of what you'd say differently?
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All depends on context man but for example I would skip the small talk kind of questions. Just add some humor and move things forward progressively. The conversations you’re having seem very logical. Women are more emotional so its not necessarily what you say, but what it subcommunicates.