You don’t always have to sexualize over text to be honest. You can save that for the date. Touching, eye contact, verbal cues, etc. especially if it’s a wine date at your or her place that’s pretty easy. If she agrees to coming over you can already assume there’s some sexual interest from her.

And that can vary from girl to girl. I think since you already pitched the soft close you might as well jump into logistics. If she’s not complying then maybe bring it back and comfort a bit more then re-soft close her later but if not just go all the way for hard close.