I've had about 65 matches and 1 date in the span of a month (albeit with Tinder Platinum, Hinge Premium and thousands of swipes). The feedback and guidance from PWF has been immensely helpful in lieu of my poor social skills. However, I sense that my desperation and inexperience with non-platonic conversation is easily detected by girls that might be into me, even if I try to hide it. This interaction in particular, I feel like I could have done more to save it. I asked another group of people if the last message I sent was weird or not and I got mixed reactions. I went with my gut and I sent it anyways. The reason I sent that message was because: it was on a high point (she's beginning to invest by asking buying questions), and I wanted to pull back we had been talking for about 3-4 days and very infrequently up to that point, the conversation was too platonic and I wanted to change that, hence the "romantic date" statement I was getting nervous that if I didn't make some kind of move, she would move on to the next person. I know believe that I shot myself in the foot. Here are my messages: And this gives you a snapshot into all of my matches and conversations in general. They usually go something like this. Now I would do more flirting and sexualizing, but the few times I have it didn't go well for me. Specifically, a match unmatched me yesterday after I said "you're just my type/can I be honest". So I try to just go the conversation route, but there's no tension involved.