She's probably the hottest chick I pulled so far. It took 3 dates to finally seal the deal. She seemed trustworthy. We both performed oral and we had sex twice. Both times with a condom. The second time I lost my boner cause of the condom. So I said let's do it raw this time and she said no. She started acting really weird then she told me it's cause she has HPV. I kinda freaked out a little and she got upset and left. She texted me she wants to keep seeing me. I haven't responded yet cause idk what to do. I messaged my doctor and he said it can be transmitted through contact with warts or unprotected sex. But she didn't have any visible warts so I think I'm in the clear. She looked, smelled, and tasted clean. Doc also said there's nothing a guy can do but wait for symptoms. And symptoms could show up years down the road so I'll never know if I got it from her. My date told me I shouldn't be upset cause lots of girls can have HPV and they might not tell me. And I shouldn't leave her for something like this. But I don't want warts and I don't want cancer. This sucks cause she's seriously the hottest chick I've been with. But I gotta think with the right head on this one and let her go. How would you guys handle this situation?
28 Posts (+2), 62 Cmts (+8)
Yeah you make valid points. She did seem really sorry and her defense for not telling me was cause we were using a condom.
But would you continue having sex with someone after knowing that they have HPV? That's the part I'm trying to figure out. I don't want an STD and I definitely don't want cancer.
My doc said HPV is very common and there's a chance she might not even have it anymore if her body cleared it or she might still have it and I might get it and develop warts and penile/anal/oral cancer. And there's also a chance I get it and my immune system clears it. Talk about extremes holy shit.
I just feel like I should cut her off cause she has an STD. But then if it's so common then should I really be cutting her off for that? What would you do?
4 Posts (-1), 50 Cmts (+18)
It's hard to give medical advice but I can tell you what I would do in your shoes. Take it with a grain of salt:
It's my understanding that HPV is very common and that if you're having unprotected sex, you'll likely catch it. And I've already put myself in that position. There's no testing for men either, so it is what it is.
It's not binary for me whether I would cut sex from a girl with HPV. If the sex is not good? Probably. If the sex is mind-blowing? Is she awesome? Probably not.
28 Posts (+2), 62 Cmts (+8)
Yeah the sex was good. I'll keep her around and not worry about the HPV so much, thanks man