Hey guys, Had a solid convo with this girl — good energy, long replies, seemed into meeting up. But now she’s insisting I come to her city (about 40 mins away). I teased her a bit about needing a visa to visit mine, but she doubled down with “So doesn’t Amsterdam 😉” and hasn’t softened since. I’m not opposed to going there eventually, but I want to make sure I’m only investing in women who show some flexibility and effort early on. Feels like if I cave now, I’m chasing. What’s the best way to reframe this and get her to agree to drinks in my city without killing the vibe or looking rigid?

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Her response:

Kind of a turn-off. I' m torn between leaving her on read and grabbing her number, sending her a text so we both have each other's number. That way we can text if one of us is near the other's city. Or will I be wasting my time?

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yeah this would be a type of situation i would walk away from. you can try as a hail marry to say "are you gonna give me a tour of your new place ;) "

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Lol plot twist - she double texted me after I left her on read:

"I might go to (name of my city) next week saturday actually"

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