I can get from match to date easily but I have trouble getting from the date to my bed. I just got out of a long term relationship and still new to dating. So far from bumble I've gone out with 2 girls (Sarah and Lisa). With Sarah, we went out to a bar and date went well, I invited her back to my place and she said not on the first date. We made out at the end and set up a second. Second date went well at a bar. I invited her back and she said she wants to wait still but she wants another date. We made out again and she left. Third date is coming up but I'm taking her to the park this time cause the bar is too expensive. With Lisa, I took her to the bar. Date went well and I invited her back to my place but she said she wants to get to know me more first. We made out at the end and she left. Second date is coming up at another bar. Both times I had serious make out sessions with tongue and grabbing but they both want more dates first. How long does it take you guys?
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Typically takes me one date, sometimes two. But, I probably sexualize more than you do over text. Also, here's a tip for bringing girls back to your place. Don't just say "Hey, you wanna come back to your place?". Instead, just lead them to your place without saying anything while maintaining conversation. If the girl asks where we're going, I say "Somewhere romantic". Works like a charm
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I like that. Is it better to try and get a make out session in first after the bar, before you bring her back, to set the mood? Or save that for when you get her to your place?
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Good question. I have done both. If you don't have that level of escalation in the bar, then when/if she comes to your place it will certainly happen. Some girls don't want to kiss in a public space, are shy, etc...