So basically my Tinder profile is still a work in progress but I am getting around 4 to 5 matches a week with a response rate of at least 85%. But I've been blowing it date after date for almost a month now. The thing is I do not lie about my intentions I am looking for something casual, a one night stand, a friend with benefits, even a semi-regular booty call, basically anything that's not a committed serious relationship. But it seems this approach is not working so well, part of me wishes to blame it on the girls I meet and say they just don't want the same but I can't help but think I have done something wrong and there were times where sex was a possibility but I failed, pushed too much or pushed too little. Long story short, I have a date on Tuesday. New girl, fresh out of a relationship who stated that she's looking for something casual. I'm in Paris now and we have a 9:00 PM curfew plus all bars and restaurants are closed, so I'll be meeting her at a public park that is right between where we both live, not very far from her place which is good. I need some tips on what to do and what not to do to make sure I either have sex on Tuesday or arrange for some later in the week. ( Is it a good idea to bring a bottle of wine with me without telling her is also something I wanna know)
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Yes absolutely. In fact between my last reply and now I went back to build investment and managed to scrub the park date and have her come right over for some wine and some sex (quite literally that's how it was said) now I gotta focus on winning the actual date since most of the work is done already
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Nice man. Ya most guys don't have the balls to invite a girl straight over and girls know this. They respect the dude that does. What was her response when you mentioned sex? I'd imagine that would be a turn off since girls want there to be some chemistry before setting expectations
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Oh no I didn't mention it like a job application. I've been playfuly hinting at it for two days now and she was actually playing along with me.
Then when I said the park would be too far if we expect to do it she agreed that's when I knew that if I turned it into a serious conversation she would say yes. And surely enough she did, in fact she agreed to the sex before I even brought up the wine so that came as like a seal the deal kinda thing. We'll see on tuesday if she goes through with it all (I'm optimistic she'll be in my bed)