How to win the first date (and what are the signs we will be having sex)?
So basically my Tinder profile is still a work in progress but I am getting around 4 to 5 matches a week with a response rate of at least 85%.
But I've been blowing it date after date for almost a month now. The thing is I do not lie about my intentions I am looking for something casual, a one night stand, a friend with benefits, even a semi-regular booty call, basically anything that's not a committed serious relationship.
But it seems this approach is not working so well, part of me wishes to blame it on the girls I meet and say they just don't want the same but I can't help but think I have done something wrong and there were times where sex was a possibility but I failed, pushed too much or pushed too little.
Long story short, I have a date on Tuesday. New girl, fresh out of a relationship who stated that she's looking for something casual. I'm in Paris now and we have a 9:00 PM curfew plus all bars and restaurants are closed, so I'll be meeting her at a public park that is right between where we both live, not very far from her place which is good.
I need some tips on what to do and what not to do to make sure I either have sex on Tuesday or arrange for some later in the week. ( Is it a good idea to bring a bottle of wine with me without telling her is also something I wanna know)
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Okay a few things here man. First off, you're missing some key information. Are you screening these chicks over text? Are you sexualizing the text conversation? Are these girls coming straight to your place or are you meeting in public? At what point do you struggle during the date? Are you able to get the makeout?
These are the key bits of information in order to diagnose your issue. In terms of your upcoming date if you want to maximize your chances, have her either come straight to your place or meet her at a park nearby where you live. Do not try to meet at a public place & try to pull to hers. It is always much better to pull to your own place.
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-I do bring up sex and make jokes and remarks about what I could do to her and things like that, but I never had a full sexting session before meeting.
-We meet in public. I tried to invite girls to my place before but it seems here in pairs "come to hang out at my place" means "I wanna hook up" they all say they wanna meet first.
-During the date I struggle right after I get the introductions out of the way (the where you from and what do you do...) after that I try to take the conversation into a sexual direction but the girls never get on the same page with me they continue with the banter or change the subject when they notice what I'm trying to do.
-I was not able to makeout with anyone in France yet. I used to back home but here it just doesn't go that way.
And a key thing is I live in student housing, so it's a big house. I have my own room for now but share a kitchen and bathroom with other students from my college and that usually alarms girls and they get defensive about coming over.
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She doesn't need to be "dtf" over text. 99% of girls on tinder are dtf to being with. They're just waiting for a guy who knows what he is doing and knows how to set the mood for a romantic patio date. You don't need be explicit about sex at all most the time it's unnecessary imo and girls know whatsup when you invite them over drinks on a romantic patio. If a girl is fearful for some reason then offer to go for a walk around the block before her coming straight to your apartment.
I had a rideculous increase in the amount of lays from having girls come straight to my house vs trying to meet them at bars like I used to. Virtually every girl is comfortable coming over if your smooth about it.