I live in the suburbs just outside the city lines, about 20- 30 min depending on traffic and it seems to be a constant frustration that girls in the city will not stay interested when they learn I’m not exactly in the city. Anyone else experience this and have a solution besides moving to the city?
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I live outside the city too but if you turn girls on enough and they're into you they gonna drive to you. I had girls driving 1 hour and more or even come from another city nearby to see me.
They're not gonna come just to grab a coffee though, as Alex said you have to frame it as a fuck date.
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Right and honestly, I don’t know how to remove more of the ambiguity without over sexualizing the text convo where the girl stops responding.
So like this one girl I just got her number a bit ago, we were talking about cuddling skills and how she’s curious about them. Now I’m going to meet her in the city, but not really near her place just in the city center, she’s like 15 min from there. So I feel like this is going to be a “date”. Not sure how I seed it from there or do I do that now? Cuz I have to go back to her place. Basically we haven’t talked anything overly sexual and I’m not sure what I should do on date to get it there
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So, you haven't done what Alex or Sandric suggested in this thread. You've set up a date for a place that's not your house and not her house, not even nearby. Instead of solving your difficult problem you've moved it to the date.
You're now asking a very general question. Instead, read any basic material on how to handle yourself on a date.
Be attractive on the date. Kiss her a bit, if you're feeling it and if people do that in public where you are. After 60 to 90 minutes when it's going great tell her "let's go" and get in a taxi. Take the taxi to your house. If she's also in the taxi, show off your cuddling skills. If she's not in the taxi, get back to swiping.
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I have a video where I walk you through exactly how to do it , step by step. What you are doing is going to be largely a waste of time. That time would be better spent increasing your income so you can move into the city. I have been where you are, and I would do this public dates where I would try to pull to the girl's place, And, occasionally it worked. But, it is very sub-optimal. While you are trying to improve your living situation, I would practice doing what I mentioned earlier on Tinder.
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Agreed!