I live in the suburbs just outside the city lines, about 20- 30 min depending on traffic and it seems to be a constant frustration that girls in the city will not stay interested when they learn I’m not exactly in the city. Anyone else experience this and have a solution besides moving to the city?
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So, you haven't done what Alex or Sandric suggested in this thread. You've set up a date for a place that's not your house and not her house, not even nearby. Instead of solving your difficult problem you've moved it to the date.
You're now asking a very general question. Instead, read any basic material on how to handle yourself on a date.
Be attractive on the date. Kiss her a bit, if you're feeling it and if people do that in public where you are. After 60 to 90 minutes when it's going great tell her "let's go" and get in a taxi. Take the taxi to your house. If she's also in the taxi, show off your cuddling skills. If she's not in the taxi, get back to swiping.
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Right so you think I should just not meet her? How do I solve the fuck date part? Like it seems like most of the PWF interactions the girl is already thinking about sex, may be a bit nervous, but she knows what’s up. I know I’m not doing a great job of screening out girls who are not down and it’s more ambiguous still. Which is not what I want.
For example, this girl I am asking about, we are supposed to meetup next week, last night she invites me to some music artist show at a bar tonight that is no where near where she lives that starts late, so clearly she’s not on the same page and I’m thinking I shouldn’t even meet her. But maybe just ask her “what are you looking for?” ?
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You have to ask you what you're looking for. If you like live music go to this thing. If you like to bone, probably not. It makes you "boyfriend material" and it'll be much harder to get her to fuck after that. Also it'll probably be too loud to talk to her and that's a shitty date idea.
If you want help with sexualising your conversations, start posting the conversations. This girl you're talking about, I want to see how the conversation moved from "I have mad cuddling skills, come over to my sexy cuddling pad" to "sure baby I'll go to your music artist show thing and buy you drinks"