Where did I go wrong here? I tried to get her to come over Saturday night but she said shes with her friends and she wouldn’t leave so i tried to show a bit of social awareness that i understand she cant leave her friends and didn’t want to be too pushy. But now Sunday night I messaged her around 5pm and she said she finished cleaning her room but she didn’t respond after I said “ready for purell and chill” Where should i go from here? should I try to soft close her and ask to come over tonight or just ask for her schedule instead and schedule a date in advanced?
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Obviously I don't know your full story, but it sounds like you're doing a bit too much of the pushing here, if she keeps flaking you probably need to drop your interest level a bit. Put something like "I get it, you're too shy to meet me" and see if she'll give a better reason for her lack of interest that you can work around, but I repeat, you absolutely do not want to just keep rescheduling when she flakes as she need to know you are a guy who's time is important to him and you're not going to keep scheduling things in with a girl you can't rely on
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That’s what I thought so I’m not going to push to meet tonight. I’ll pull back a bit and wait. She seems interested all the way up until now because everything was going smoothly but until now is the first time she didn’t reply to my message, but earlier she said she feels intimidated to meet new people because she is inexperienced
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Sounds positive 👍 and when she does that interest again feel free to reassure her that inexperience isnt a problem, maybe joke that "if it's not perfect the first time we can just keep trying until we nail it" but wait until she shows interest so that this is reassurance rather than another attempt to persuade her
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Hey Scott I respect how you know so much maybe we could talk more in person how can I reach you
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I mean you can message me on here I'm happy to reply, but I'm new to this site and don't fancy the potential spam