Matched with this girl before the holidays. I was out of town for three weeks so the interaction had a bit of a delay in it. I tried soft closing last weekend and she was “sick” and now says this. I feel like this usually means she’s not interested or has some other objection. Haven’t had to use any takeaways or anything up to this point. Thoughts? Maybe go with “ah that sounds stressful, but honestly I’m busy too. I’m sure if we put our heads together we could find an hour to grab a quick drink or coffee”
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Here is the update from today as well. We aren’t far from each other, 8 minute car ride maybe.
*Edit, did a bit more digging today:
Me: Honestly just curious, is there a specific reason? If you’re a little nervous or something I’d understand
Her: Honestly, I have a lot on my plate at work right now—March and April are our busiest months, and it’s just not realistic for me to do the travel time to another part of the city. I’d have to rearrange my dog’s walk schedule, and that would impact my work. I can’t justify that for a first date.
But I really just don’t have time for this at all, so it was nice chatting!
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If i were you, i wouldnt go to her. You set up first date near you, so it should be somewhere you're comfortable with. Had a similiar problem not long ago where she wanted a dinner for first date and i didnt agree
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Yeah agree, not gonna go to her. I have good logistics setup for dates near me. Will try a bit more and if she doesn’t agree then I’ll just move on