Hey, Im wondering how you guys go about asking to go back to your place. I literally don't know how so I started off pretty weird sounding but lately I just say something along the lines of lets take this some place more comfortable. Unfortunately I can never seem to get a girl back to my place on the first date. I always get really touchy on the date and make sure I kiss them at some point. Am I just not getting sexual enough? I feel kind of awkward going too sexual on the first date. Does anyone have any tips to increase my close rate on first dates outside of my place.
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Definitely agree. I don't like getting drinks, at least not as the sole activity of the date, since it's awkward to escalate in that environment. And I make sure to say semi private so she doesn't get uncomfortable
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Upvote for the diametrically opposite perspective. I can't imagine a good 1st date as anything OTHER than drinks at a bar. I wouldn't want to meet a new woman in private. I've met some legit crazies. The bartender/staff I view as my friends and teammates basically, they are my witnesses. And I am very comfortable going for a kiss / moderate make out at a bar, 1-3 kisses is perfect over 2-3 hours having drinks. Anyway awesome having massively different perspectives on this forum.
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This is definitely the way to go. Coffee or drinks. Some girls will want to do dinner and that's okay too. I think it's fine to try to add value but most of the guys giving their perspectives and opinions on here just don't have enough experience yet. A private date such as on a half deserted beach is just not going to go down well with a lot of girls. Too much pressure plus safety concerns etc. If you can't escalate at a bar, it's your fault not the location.
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Haha interesting, guess we all have our preference here. If I meet any actual crazies at some point I might switch to that but myself I personally have a harder time with PDA. Might be the age difference of us in the forums and where we live that makes us have diff preference