Met girl on hinge, near exact my type, she has a thing for redheads, ok this is gonna be a layup. We vibe over text, lots of investment from both sides. We setup date for last night after like 5 days of talking on hinge. She asks a favor if I can come pick her up (she's 18, in like first week of college, lives in dorms no car, usually goes for much older guys). I say something like "yeah for sure, but ofcourse.. it'll cost you". Probably shouldn't have said that in retrospect, but she replies "what's the price hun" and I say "guess we might have to find out" and she says something that she's not tryna get freaky on the first date so I say "Freaky? Get your mind outta the gutter girl". That's the context. We have our date, nice romantic on beach at night drinking wine for an hour, then go to chill in car with some music, start making out and rubbing her pussy from outside her pants. She's totally into it, moaning hot. I end it relatively quickly to not lose any sexual tension from making out too long. I say let's go, we go back to mine. Put on some random show, watch & cuddle & chat for 5-10 mins. Start making out again, I escalate, start rubbing her body, then her pussy from outside. Then fingering her, she loves it. I think to myself "OK this is definitely going down", and unzip her pants, start pulling off both her pants and panties at same time. This is first point where she shows resistance. She doesn't want her panties off. I persist a bit to gauge whether she's being serious or just playing hard to get. She's definitely being serious. Ok I ask what's up. She doesn't want to fuck or have me see her pussy because she didn't shave and didn't mentally prepare for a day before having sex and is a bit drunk. I say I don't care if she didn't shave it doesn't matter to me and I try to resolve her other concerns. To no avail. I pull back for a minute and persist again, same answer. Except this time her legs are literally shaking. I get weirded tf out like she's either cold or terrified. We switch to grinding with her underwear and me naked lmao. She says she has to leave soon, ok. I say "Wanna go down on me", she does, it's nice. Then we dress and leave. In the car ride I try to address what was going on with the shaking, she jokingly said she thought she "might have been joining the me too movement tonight". I'm like wtff no I would never do anything like that ever. This was my first experience getting this much LMR and I persisted way too much. Usually a little persistence works, but I fucked up. We get to her dorm and chat for few minutes, make out a bit, say we will hangout again on Tuesday. She says "I hope you aren't too disappointed". I say no worries but we can try again Tuesday, she's says yup ok. She leaves and I text her which you can see in the screenshot. She unmatched me very early this morning, before like 6 am and ghosted me. Fuck me. Hottest girl gone on date with. Keep in mind I'm sharing the bad details here but we still vibed after the shaking shit and she went down on me so like she was still into it. Whole night was a good vibe until that 1-2 minutes where I persisted too much. Even after was good vibe so the fact she woke up this morning and ghosted hurts actually. She was also texting her roommate the whole night to give updates since her roommate is like protective or something. That's cool, smart. Maybe her roommate convinced her to ghost me? Not sure if she has past trauma. She is from NYC and said it's common there so maybe she's paranoid about it. I don't blame her, I know I persisted too much (even took condom out of box, not wrapper, to see her reaction, she wasn't into it) Any advice? Maybe wait a couple days and text her from another number?

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Welcome man. Also, looking at the screenshot - your 11:23 text was very bad. She already said she had fun, then the 11:23 text screams insecurity & fear that you did something wrong. Unforced error, learn from that too.
If Alex does that, then ok. It is not something I would do. In this particular case if you were to do that, HEAVY on the empathy and maybe go a little overboard on how much you like her, ask for another chance, cop to your mistakes....stuff that's usually not powerful at all, but in this case theres damage that would have to get repaired.
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True you're right. I did imply I was at fault with that text. Guess I was trying to gauge her feelings on the night since the way she said "crazy night there" made me think she wanted me to reply to that. Hm, how would you have replied? But it baffles me that she responds so positively "definitely good" and then ghosts. Guess that's just part of the game.
Yeah was thinking I would have to load the text with empathy. Ok thanks man, will wait few days and think about it
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"yeah absolutely, I hope the next one is even crazier, but only if you're up for that. I'm super attracted to you & i def need to maintain lol. Thanks for your understanding. But ya I def want to see you again, no expectations"
That coulda saved it, bc she would show that to her friend, and her friend would be like "honestly I was thinking screw this effing asshole based on what you said before, but based on this text you could give him 1 more chance"...but notice how everything I say is thru that prism of win/win.
Btw this may be tough to hear but I'll give it to you straight - her 11:33 text was tantamount to her patting you on the head like "aw, it's ok don't be sad, there there now" - full-on people pleaser mode. Then the friend was like "hell no stop responding to this dude" and convinced her to ditch you.
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If you can get one 8 you can get more. It sucks man but move on if you can