This was from a very short in-person interaction, at party, there was definitely a sexual element to it at the time. In before "Stop the game-y stuff" regarding "you might be a kidnapper", yup it slipped my mind at the time. My question is regarding, after she seemed pretty antsy to find out what my "r rated" relaxation techniques are, why did it feel like it dropped flat right after. Could be that she was just expecting "more" but I played it a bit safe, or maybe the entire pacing is off. She lives pretty far out so I'm not that keen to meet up but good practice anyway.
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I'm back at my parent's place for a bit between travel and accommodatio plans. In theory, I could, but I wouldn't feel comfortable, and thus the girl isn't likely either.
It seems I'm struggling to understand the frame because;
I've attached a recent example of me trying to be more short, no gamey-ness. I just seems so dull. This girl and I do have a bit of interesting in that we haven't got to meet up yet but she was blowing up my phone massive in the past before she went away so I feel like I have the "buyer" frame in my court.
Right after she said "I like romance" i realized I could have and probably should have sexualized a bit more (in the past we've spoken about pretty sexual topics, dominant vs. submissive, what she likes, what i like etc).
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I gotcha. There's nothing "dull" about the convo that I just read, but to clarify, the goal isn't to be "dull/basic", but to simplify things. And avoid unnecessary complexity. I saw a bit of that in this convo when you got into logistics. This one seems extremely down, after she said "let me know when you are keen", I would have just asked her about the time frame where your logistics were good and picked a date. I don't recommend straight up asking for a girl's place, unless it's screened as a fuckdate.
You can either set it up as a wine date and pick a time when your place is free or frame everything as a fuck date and then inquire about her logistics (And obviously you can frame it as a fuck date and invite her to your place). Take a look at some of my youtube videos for examples on how to
You can respond to her last text with "Of course. You should know by now"
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Hey man whats the name of your youtube channel?