Definitely always as first option... Think about it... Now you have set the frame so when you meet in public she knows you want to take her back to your place because you already set the frame by first asking her initially... If she doesn't then find out her objection to make sure it's stranger danger and not that she's a prude. But you should set your profile to sexual frame it's like a filter so you kno many of the women that contact you know what's up lol