There is some kind of doctor's office adjacent to where I work. As I am leaving my job (flexible hours), I generally leave on the late side and it's dark outside. As I pull out of my parking spot, I've been noticing an attractive female nurse/dental assistant/etc. smoking a cigarette on a regular basis. I didn't think doctor's offices were open that late (??) I gather that she's taking a smoke break and then has to return to work. Keep in mind she is standing a bit of a ways down, but not that far from the entrance to my workplace. Which, if any, is the right approach? I have very little experience, but I am motivated to shoot my shot in this case. -Walking up and asking for a light (I don't smoke but perhaps an icebreaker) -Walking up, are you single? -Driving by and saying something out the window -Go into her building hoping to bump into her - ask for directions (LMAO) -Too risky since it's a few doors down from work
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ask for a light and start a conversation
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Yeah, and I guess I should fix up my attire a bit. I usually go to work super casual. Any tips on conversation - talk about her work schedule? I'm guessing I'll have a short 5 minute window. Have to test the waters and see if I'm her type/if she's single. And all of this is hinging on passing by at the right time before she has to return to work. I have seen her by chance generally about once a month, maybe twice.
Ok, so let's say she's all about it. My thought is to get her number, get a better sense of her schedule, and then try to set up plans based on that.
If she is sort of lukewarm, what would be a way to win her over?
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you're overthinking it. Have good energy, keep eye contact and get small talk going. If the vibe is good just say "we should go out sometime. Let me grab your number"
Who knows how she'll react. Don't start thinking about what could happen, just go and find out for yourself.