So I met this chick on first date. Made the grave mistake of getting there late by 1 hr (due to some personal work) sje was visibky angry and reluctant for a hug, our plan for attending a light show failed so we went to an Irish pub and talked a lot. She was mirroring my body language and we were standing quite close in subway train, good eye contact, she was interested in convos too. She mentioned she had gone on a date every week, and was still looking for something serious, she did mention she was type A person, and I couldnt flirt much with het and I wasnt sure if I could kiss or sexualize at end of date, so just gave her a hug, kiss on cheek and we parted ways on subway. Here's the text that followed. I tried sexualizing as a hail mary attempt. She hasnt replied back since yesterday, what should I do?
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To build on what chaz has said, give it at least 48 hours
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Ok something interesting happened, on the date we had ran into this professional cricketer from the Carribean (the girl is from Carribean too, tho not the same country). We had a bit of a chat, and my date and the guy kinda talked about being from Carribean. The guy was with his wife at that time, but my gut instinct just said he was into her. Later in the pub, I jokingly told the girl that the guy was into her and she said "Nah, its not like that"
Funnily enough today the guy created a group chat with both of us on Insta and invited us to a "secret" 6 story mansion in Manhattan for Halloween. The girl replied to the invitation that she's interested (though she still hasnt replied to my text, I texted her as @chaz ) suggested). My train of thoughts are kind of running in two ways:
Honestly, I am not very social guy and as you can see I am insecure about this party where I can come off as an "outsider" and being just a broke college student it maybe expensive though I CAN dress nicely enough . At this point, I am not attached to the girl, but yes it does hurt ego to have your girl taken away. She still hasn't replied to my text. How should I handle this situation?
@avilench . @Edward Webb Any help would be appreciated!
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Just leave it be. What else can you do?
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yeah man, being congruent from text and in person is pretty big imo, the booty text probably threw her off if you were just platonic on the date.
As far the girl, it was just 1 date right? be careful being needy my dude with thinking/saying stuff like "have your girl taken away". Plenty first date girls to be had, until she is on rotation for like months then I might start to assess the situation but maybe that is just me. As far as this party, if you know hot girls will be there, I'd check it out, you can always bounce if its lame or sketchy
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Yeah that's what I am thinking