I live in the suburbs just outside the city lines, about 20- 30 min depending on traffic and it seems to be a constant frustration that girls in the city will not stay interested when they learn I’m not exactly in the city. Anyone else experience this and have a solution besides moving to the city?
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Right and honestly, I don’t know how to remove more of the ambiguity without over sexualizing the text convo where the girl stops responding.
So like this one girl I just got her number a bit ago, we were talking about cuddling skills and how she’s curious about them. Now I’m going to meet her in the city, but not really near her place just in the city center, she’s like 15 min from there. So I feel like this is going to be a “date”. Not sure how I seed it from there or do I do that now? Cuz I have to go back to her place. Basically we haven’t talked anything overly sexual and I’m not sure what I should do on date to get it there
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So, you haven't done what Alex or Sandric suggested in this thread. You've set up a date for a place that's not your house and not her house, not even nearby. Instead of solving your difficult problem you've moved it to the date.
You're now asking a very general question. Instead, read any basic material on how to handle yourself on a date.
Be attractive on the date. Kiss her a bit, if you're feeling it and if people do that in public where you are. After 60 to 90 minutes when it's going great tell her "let's go" and get in a taxi. Take the taxi to your house. If she's also in the taxi, show off your cuddling skills. If she's not in the taxi, get back to swiping.
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Right so you think I should just not meet her? How do I solve the fuck date part? Like it seems like most of the PWF interactions the girl is already thinking about sex, may be a bit nervous, but she knows what’s up. I know I’m not doing a great job of screening out girls who are not down and it’s more ambiguous still. Which is not what I want.
For example, this girl I am asking about, we are supposed to meetup next week, last night she invites me to some music artist show at a bar tonight that is no where near where she lives that starts late, so clearly she’s not on the same page and I’m thinking I shouldn’t even meet her. But maybe just ask her “what are you looking for?” ?
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I have a video where I walk you through exactly how to do it , step by step. What you are doing is going to be largely a waste of time. That time would be better spent increasing your income so you can move into the city. I have been where you are, and I would do this public dates where I would try to pull to the girl's place, And, occasionally it worked. But, it is very sub-optimal. While you are trying to improve your living situation, I would practice doing what I mentioned earlier on Tinder.
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Thanks Alex, I really appreciate your feedback. You’ve been very helpful