Hey Alex, you mentioned in your video “how self improvement can ruin your life (5 traps to avoid)” that the deep inner work is important so that your house of cards is built on a stable foundation. You mentioned self esteem, getting over past traumas, etc. What are some practical practices and exercises I can start doing right now to implement these things in order to make sure I build my self-esteem, get over past traumas and built my foundation on a stable level?
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Having a "daily self improvement routine" is vague.
When people find something they really want to do with their life, they say they're doing that particular thing. Not that they're on a self-improvement journey. Like if someone wants to play the guitar, they'll say "I'm playing the guitar because I love it" - not "I'm doing this as a self-improvement routine".
It's the same thing with people who say "I want to be an entrepreneur". And you can immediately tell that the person doesn't have a specific sense of direction on what they want to do. Because if they did, they'd say they're pursuing a certain industry or job. They wouldn't just say "I'm gonna be an entreprenuer".
If you're asking about me personally. I do things for my health (i.e. diet, exercise). I do things because I enjoy them (hobbies, time with family/friends, travelling). But I don't do these things just because it's some structured routine I'm supposed to do.
You have to find what it is your passionate about. It just seems like you're trying to check all these self-improvement boxes just because you're supposed to.
And if your goal here is just to get laid a lot. You don't need to do any of this self-improvement nonsense. Just go out and talk to lots of women. (Or if you prefer dating apps, put time/money into having professional quality pictures)
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Okay, I see your point bruv. Everyone has different goals.
I’m not just trying to check all the boxes of self-improvement. Quite frankly speaking, a lot of the self improvement habits I find are pretty useful, maybe I wasn’t specific enough so my bad.
But yes women is my priority right now and I know what it’s going to take for that: like you said go out a lot, talk to women and use dating apps with high quality photos.
Things like my physique, money, and fashion are very important to me as well but women is my top priority.
This is getting a little personal but I do have a little bit of OCD which triggers me in making a list of things to get done so I can check the box but I don’t know if that’s the correct approach or not.
I want to continue hitting the gym 5 days a week with my brother, in terms of my financial situation like I said: I’m almost done my degree which means I’ll be getting a job really soon, I’m actually applying right now for jobs so as soon as I get one I’m moving out and getting my own place.
For fashion I know what to do that’s a minor thing. But for women I have to put in the time and effort I realize that.
There’s just one thing I’d like to add: you mentioned I don’t need to do any of the self improvement nonsense, which you’re right I agree. Majority of these self-improvement stuff is all bullshit. But in terms of women, looks do matter to an extent so would you say that other than approaching women I should continue lifting weights, dress well and just groom myself right? Just those 3 things
By the way in terms of genetics, I’m 6 ft tall, I’m Indian with a Canadian accent, and I weigh about 140lb right now. People tell me I’m decent looking. I consider myself a good looking guy. I’m just keeping it 100% real. Brutal honest truth nothing more.