This was from a very short in-person interaction, at party, there was definitely a sexual element to it at the time. In before "Stop the game-y stuff" regarding "you might be a kidnapper", yup it slipped my mind at the time. My question is regarding, after she seemed pretty antsy to find out what my "r rated" relaxation techniques are, why did it feel like it dropped flat right after. Could be that she was just expecting "more" but I played it a bit safe, or maybe the entire pacing is off. She lives pretty far out so I'm not that keen to meet up but good practice anyway.
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None taken, honest feedback is what I need.
"Epic" is like my knee-jerk response because I feel I "need" to acknowledge something they said. Will aim to cut it out. Should I be cutting out even "Cool"s, "Ah okay"s, "Interesting" because I do those as well.
So I didn't say romantic patio because I can't pull to my place at the moment. How would you change the sequence in that case, "Your romantic patio"? If I recall correctly, one of your videos mentioned you don't want to make too many assumptions about her living situation.
And, does it still apply as double-texting if you're simply breaking up two separates responses? Does that mean you should essentially only ever respond to one thing even if there are multiple points to potentially respond to in their texts?
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I think you're losing sight of the main picture man, the main issue isn't a specific word here and there, it's the overall extreme "nice guy" vibe. Adding "Ah okay" or "Interesting" is totally fine. It's also totally fine to break up a text into 2 and answer more than one question
Not being able to pull to your place, definitely poses a big issue. Personally, my approach in that situation is to go very sexual over text, get her sold on the idea of this being a fuck date and then ask if her place is an option. Just out of curiosity, why exactly can't you pull to your place?
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I'm back at my parent's place for a bit between travel and accommodatio plans. In theory, I could, but I wouldn't feel comfortable, and thus the girl isn't likely either.
It seems I'm struggling to understand the frame because;
I've attached a recent example of me trying to be more short, no gamey-ness. I just seems so dull. This girl and I do have a bit of interesting in that we haven't got to meet up yet but she was blowing up my phone massive in the past before she went away so I feel like I have the "buyer" frame in my court.
Right after she said "I like romance" i realized I could have and probably should have sexualized a bit more (in the past we've spoken about pretty sexual topics, dominant vs. submissive, what she likes, what i like etc).
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