You guys got any advice for what to do on phone calls? Just recently had one and I have the feeling it could’ve been better. It was a short getting to know each other call, but I wonder if there’s anything to do like with text game?
Well, this is under the assumption that you're trying to have sex with her. That's the ultimate purpose and the phone call is a means to an end. Keep that in mind: means to an end. If you're end goal is not sex though, adjust accordingly. But "getting to know each other" is basically qualifying or building comfort.
You are "getting to know" if you want to have sex with her, by qualifying her--you would ask the questions you want--or whatever--until she's qualified. Once done, phone is call over.
She wants to "get to know you" so that she is comfortable sleeping with you. Either because she doesn't want to feel like a slut, make sure you're not a creep, further asses your value, etc. In that case, you may need to dig a little to find out what her objections are, but she may just screen you/give you shit tests without you having to prompt, in which case, just pass. Once she's satisfied, phone call is over.
That's it.
Now, I do know that sometimes people (especially long term couples) talk on the phone just to talk. They enjoy each others company, miss each other, wanna connect somehow, or whatever. But I don't suggest getting into the frame so early. Even if your goal is not just having sex with her, you're going to get much more attachment and investment from her (varies) once you do have sex, so I recommend making that your primary and immediate objective.
Yeah I asked her what she was looking for and it was a relationship. I’m open to it if it happens, but I’m understanding still aim for sex to increase her attachment to me, and from there it’s easier to start a relationship. Anyways, generally, I just have to qualify her/pass her shit tests if she gives me some. What if she goes into regular conversation though?
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Well, this is under the assumption that you're trying to have sex with her. That's the ultimate purpose and the phone call is a means to an end. Keep that in mind: means to an end. If you're end goal is not sex though, adjust accordingly. But "getting to know each other" is basically qualifying or building comfort.
You are "getting to know" if you want to have sex with her, by qualifying her--you would ask the questions you want--or whatever--until she's qualified. Once done, phone is call over.
She wants to "get to know you" so that she is comfortable sleeping with you. Either because she doesn't want to feel like a slut, make sure you're not a creep, further asses your value, etc. In that case, you may need to dig a little to find out what her objections are, but she may just screen you/give you shit tests without you having to prompt, in which case, just pass. Once she's satisfied, phone call is over.
That's it.
Now, I do know that sometimes people (especially long term couples) talk on the phone just to talk. They enjoy each others company, miss each other, wanna connect somehow, or whatever. But I don't suggest getting into the frame so early. Even if your goal is not just having sex with her, you're going to get much more attachment and investment from her (varies) once you do have sex, so I recommend making that your primary and immediate objective.
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Yeah I asked her what she was looking for and it was a relationship. I’m open to it if it happens, but I’m understanding still aim for sex to increase her attachment to me, and from there it’s easier to start a relationship. Anyways, generally, I just have to qualify her/pass her shit tests if she gives me some. What if she goes into regular conversation though?