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Hey Alex, guys, Need a quick breakdown of my situation. The Date: Things went great. We escalated to make-outs very quickly and she was super receptive. When I went for the pull/sex, she gave me some resistance (classic ASD). She explicitly said she didn't want it to be a one-night stand with me. She also confessed her pattern: in the past, if she slept with a guy on the first date, she would dump him first just to avoid getting dumped. Eventually, the sexual tension was too high and we had sex (gave her 3 orgasms). The Texts: I sent her a quick text right after she left at night. The next day around 1 PM, I texted her to set up a second date. We texted a bit, but at some point, she just stopped replying. (WhatsApp screenshot attached below) My thoughts: I'm wondering if I over-sexualized my texts the day after the date. Since she mentioned wanting something more serious, I might have triggered her buyer's remorse and she pegged me as a fuckboy. My Gameplan: During the date, she mentioned that her absolute dream date is a guy taking her to the theater (complaining that guys don't do that anymore). I want to send her a low-pressure ping after 7 days of no contact to reset the vibe and show that I actually listened to her. I'm thinking of sending this: "Hey, I was walking by the theater today and remembered our conversation. Hope your week is going well." What do you think? Did I over-sexualize the texts, and is this ping a good way to handle her ASD?

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Hey guys, ​I pulled a girl from a bar back to my place on the first date. I tried kissing her, but she was a bit conservative and told me she has a rule about no kissing on the first date. ​ We texted on Tuesday after the date and set up the second date for this Sunday. ​ How much texting should I do before the second date? Should I throw in some playful banter (and if so, how much), or just send a confirmation text on Saturday?

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