Girl hard to read after first date
Hey Alex, guys,
Need a quick breakdown of my situation.
The Date: Things went great. We escalated to make-outs very quickly and she was super receptive. When I went for the pull/sex, she gave me some resistance (classic ASD). She explicitly said she didn't want it to be a one-night stand with me. She also confessed her pattern: in the past, if she slept with a guy on the first date, she would dump him first just to avoid getting dumped. Eventually, the sexual tension was too high and we had sex (gave her 3 orgasms).
The Texts: I sent her a quick text right after she left at night. The next day around 1 PM, I texted her to set up a second date. We texted a bit, but at some point, she just stopped replying. (WhatsApp screenshot attached below)
My thoughts: I'm wondering if I over-sexualized my texts the day after the date. Since she mentioned wanting something more serious, I might have triggered her buyer's remorse and she pegged me as a fuckboy.
My Gameplan: During the date, she mentioned that her absolute dream date is a guy taking her to the theater (complaining that guys don't do that anymore). I want to send her a low-pressure ping after 7 days of no contact to reset the vibe and show that I actually listened to her.
I'm thinking of sending this: "Hey, I was walking by the theater today and remembered our conversation. Hope your week is going well."
What do you think? Did I over-sexualize the texts, and is this ping a good way to handle her ASD?
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So it sounds like she had an objection, which you were not able to overcome. She said that she would have a one-night stand because she was worried about being dumped by the guy.
The right play here would have been to reassure her and be like, "Well, I mean, if we have amazing sex, why would I want to not see you again?" Basically, reassure her that if you guys do fuck, not only are you going to see her again, tha you're actually more likely to hang out with a girl who has sex with you compared to a girl who doesn't have sex with you. You kind of dropped the ball on that one, but it is kind of more advanced type of shit.
In the future, you just try to get out another date andd then jjus do your bes to close. Hope that helps
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Thanks. What's the best way to reenage now in your opinion and how long to wait?