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Hey @avilench . or any of the guys reading, Should I delete my profile from Tinder, CMB, Bumble and Hinge to “start fresh again” another words restart all the girls I’ve previously swiped on, after I update my profile with a professional photographer photoshoot? Think it makes sense. Also what do you thing of this line as an opener: “do me a favor can you turn your bluetooth on? I think we could pair”
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Honestly I knew this had little chance of a response in the beginning since there wasn't enough connection, attraction, time and rapport, but I figured I'd do it anyways. I got a girls digits last night that told me she was from out of town, but was down to link up later when she's back in town. LOL I honestly didn't buy it, it was somewhat flattery to me, which is why I love it nowadays when a girl on the dancefloor either show immediate interest or a hard no (I don't feel bad at all! Their saving me a ton of time). I sent a "lame photo" idk so she might remember who I was (I experimented with that), but maybe I should have used my primary photo from my dating profiles. @avilench . lmk what you think, I'm guessing the pic was to corny or I could have don't something different. One is a screenshot of the text the other my profile pic I could have sent.
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Not that I really want her back or anything desperate I’m just really curious about this. I haven’t responded at all and this text is from May. I think she made this bullshit up to “not hurt my feelings” lol but girls say a lot of BS to hide their truth, so not sure if she was that interested from the beginning maybe a timewaster like most of the girls on the apps. Lots of texting back and forth and 1 hour long phone call but no meet up. I mean lol seriously “take a break from dating” haha sure. Is there a clever text to send in response or is this set in stone?
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I recently turned 32 a week ago and been on 2 dates so far from Coffee Meets Bagel. 31 was such an epic age for my dating life, so I have higher expectations now from my prior experiences whether good or bad. My last date at 31 was a quick lay from Tinder (TBH my first) similar to Alex’s first lay story so not exactly proud to brag about it. Both dates have been no’s so far which is slowly killing my confidence and momentum for going for more so I need some inspiration. The last date I went with tonight liked the conversation we had but didn’t feel sexual attraction which was weird since I thought she saw my photos but apparently she didn’t get a good enough look according to her lol. I recently changed my look and it is different from my current dating profile pics. I now have a more full grown beard. Quite a few people like it and a lot of people thought I should grow it out. I’ve always been somewhat reluctant to do that me maybe insecure because it was something new. The dumb girl I went out with tonight thought she liked my dating profile pic before than my current look. I’ve made out and fucked with this look so I guess girls opinion are like assholes and your results may vary. I’ve always thought my beard gives me a more Middle Eastern look which I’m actually Mexican American but either way I’m usually mistaken for Indian or something. Indian PE is a huge inspiration in this realm of dating for me as I used to think guys that looked Middle Eastern had a harder time for online dating to work. Should I keep my current beard or grow it out more or go clean shaven? The first photo is on my dating profile across a lot of apps the other I literally just took a few hours ago so forgive me if my eyes aren’t the most enthusiastic after the date I just went on I’m not posting it, just want a beard opinion.
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Hey @avilench . I think you can relate with being an only child. Did it somewhat affect the way you dated in the beginning stages? I was out tonight on a tinder date and the girl felt like I had the personality of an older brother and younger brother put together in one. I guess that means mature/confident and also native/insecure...interesting combination, perhaps I came off that way too because I'm always experimenting with my game. But this girl I found out later was bipolar and told me she came to the date in a "depressed mood" and didn't want to cancel the date. She was an actual "Witch" who practiced Wicca which low key kinda scared me LOL but she ended up being cool and a total "bad girl" as you would imagine, also said she was polyamorous and I was clear I'm looking for FWBs. Not sure if those details about the date influenced her perception of my first impression with her, but thought I might add them in for context. Back to the topic on being an only child as a guy, does affect your dating life in the beginning to mid stages of getting good at game without having an older brother as a role model to learn from? I consider my cousins my brothers and sisters, but I feel kinda embarrassed asking questions like this hence I'm on this forum, maybe I should be more open or vocal about this with them.
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Met this girl at a club. We got a table with bottle service and someone pulled her and her friend to us. She was telling me she was interested in coke (I don't do it), but someone in our group had some and lost it. I end up getting the girl number and her friend's number by the end of the night when the club closes. I text both of them about our fictional afterparty lol we need to create if they were down. I thought they'd flake but one texted me back to my surprise! So I'm trying whatever I can at 2:40am in the morning to get them over. She initially send me her Venmo to pay for her gas and of course I'm not falling for that so I tell her I'll order her an Uber (I didn't have my car with me). Based on the text screenshots what else could I have done to get them over or just her?
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Hi @avilench . This is from a girl I approached on a Hollywood Nightclub dance floor and made out with within 5 mins of talking. We met up on a 2nd date about 5 days later with more kissing and holding hands. That was back in Feb this year, but she said she was down to hangout again. I suggested we go to another venue with our group of friends (she agreed back in March). She's been busy lately and just got back from the Grammy awards show from Las Vegas. I was texting her last night to see if she was still down to see a DJ Friday night, but it's unclear to me at this point. I'm also not sure if I was slightly sexual on my last text and if that was too much too soon (even though we kissed before). After looking at our last text convo how should I follow up with her? I was thinking of saying, "Just kidding about the back/booty massage lol. What artist were you working with though?" or "What artist were you working with by the way?". I'm not sure if I need to tell her if I was just joking, I hope she got the joke. Also she isn't a fan of Exchange LA from what I heard from our prior conversations, but she likes Snakehips (DJ). I was thinking of re engaging within a day or 2. She might have plans Friday idk. What about voice memos or a short phone call. I hate overthinking this. How should I handle this? Thanks!
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